If you’re reading this because you’re wondering if you’ll ever feel like yourself again—or when your sex drive will come back—you’re not alone. While some might consider this a delicate topic, we’re diving into what you need to know about sex after pregnancy. Rest assured, there’s no need to rush playtime in the bedroom.

Edie Horstman

Edie is the founder of nutrition coaching business, Wellness with Edie. With her background and expertise, she specializes in women’s health, including fertility, hormone balance, and postpartum wellness.

The Physical Recovery Process

From one mama to another, healing from birth—physically and emotionally—is messy and nuanced. But generally speaking, the initial physical recovery takes 6-8 weeks. Moderate-to-heavy bleeding is normal (known as lochia). If you delivered vaginally, you’ll probably have perineal pain and/or stitches. Around one month postpartum, bleeding lessons.

Fast-forward to eight weeks postpartum: your belly will still look and feel different (especially if you have diastis recti, like me!), but your uterus should be back to its pre-pregnancy size. At any rate, recovery is gradual. During this time, sex is likely the last thing on your mind.

How long should you wait to have sex?

By and large, it’s recommended to wait until after you’ve had your postpartum check-up to resume sexual activity. This occurs around six weeks post-delivery. You’ll want to take the following into account:

1. Physical healing: Delivery specifics aside, your body needs time to mend. This includes recovery of the perineum or surgical incision.
2. Bleeding: Lochia—as mentioned—can last several weeks. You’ll want to wait until this bleeding has stopped to reduce the risk of infection.
3. Comfort and readiness: Of course, both physical and emotional readiness are incredibly important. Hormonal changes, fatigue, and the demands of caring for a newborn can affect your desire and comfort with resuming sex.

Consult with your healthcare provider to discuss any postpartum concerns and get personalized advice.

When does your sex drive come back during postpartum?

For me, eight weeks postpartum was simply a milestone for basic recovery—not a green light to jump back into intimacy. Between managing newborn care, sleep deprivation, and tenderness at my incision, the idea of having sex wasn’t in my periphery (for many months). If you’re wondering when your sex drive will come back, it may take a while! And that’s more than okay. Factors that influence your postpartum libido include:

Physical recovery

• Healing time: As mentioned, it takes about 6-8 weeks for the body to heal after childbirth—but this can vary depending on the type of delivery and any complications.
• Breastfeeding: Breastfeeding lowers estrogen levels, which might decrease vaginal lubrication and sex drive.

Hormonal changes

• Hormone fluctuations: Hormones (estrogen and progesterone) drop significantly after childbirth, which impacts libido. These levels usually start to stabilize over the first few months postpartum.

Emotional and psychological factors

• Stress and fatigue: Caring for a newborn is exhausting and stressful. Inevitably, this will affect your desire for sex.
• Body image: Changes in body image and self-esteem after childbirth also influence sexual desire.
• Mental health: Last but not least, postpartum depression and anxiety significantly impact libido.

Individual variations

• Personal differences: Some may find their sex drive return within a few weeks, while for others (many of us!), it might take several months or longer.

Be Patient With Yourself

Becoming a mother is a profound transformation. In a literal moment, your identity shifts to the primary caregiver of a tiny human—who depends on you for everything. Inevitably, this affects how you see yourself sexually. My best advice? Be patient with yourself. The art of feeling comfortable in your skin is an ever-evolving practice (particularly after pregnancy). It took over a year—with my first baby—for my libido to resurface. Fortunately, my husband provided unwavering support, giving me the time I needed to recover before resuming intimacy.

Communication Is Key

Don’t shy away from communicating your feelings, fears, and (fluctuating) needs. It will benefit both of you. Best of all, it will inspire new ways to connect—emotionally and physically. Speaking of connection, remember that intimacy isn’t just about sex. It’s about support, respect, and honing in on each other’s love language. Simple acts (holding hands, a long hug, etc.) can strengthen your bond and pave the way for a return to sexual intimacy… when you’re both ready.

Does sex feel different for my partner after giving birth?

Most likely, yes. Several factors can contribute to these changes:

• The vagina undergoes significant changes during childbirth. It can be more relaxed and might feel different to both partners. Over time, the vaginal muscles can regain some tone, especially with exercises, like Kegels.
• If you experienced tearing or had an episiotomy, scar tissue might affect sensation and comfort for both you and your partner.
• As previously mentioned, postpartum hormonal fluctuations can affect vaginal lubrication, which might make intercourse feel different. Using a lubricant can help.

The first time you have sex—after a C-section—may not feel very good! Along with vaginal lubricants, your doctor can suggest certain sex positions to help.

Normalizing the Absence of a Sex Drive

If you take away one piece of guidance from this read, let it be this: it’s okay to not feel ready. One of the most important things to understand is that an absent sex drive—for an extended period after giving birth—is normal. For some women, it can take months or even longer to feel that desire again! This doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you or your relationship. Rather than compare your intimacy timeline with your other mama friends, give yourself grace.

When to Seek Help

If you’re concerned about your lack of sex drive (or if it’s causing significant distress in your relationship), consider talking to a healthcare professional. Ideally, a therapist who specializes in postpartum conditions. They can provide guidance, check for any underlying issues, and suggest solutions.

If sex is physically uncomfortable or painful, don’t hesitate to discuss this with your doctor. There might be medical solutions to help, such as pelvic floor therapy or hormone treatments.

Can breastfeeding impact your sex drive?

Yes—significantly. The hormones involved in breastfeeding (prolactin and oxytocin), can suppress ovulation and lower estrogen levels. This often leads to vaginal dryness and a reduced libido. Anecdotally, I found this to be true when I breastfed my first baby. My body was entirely focused on nurturing my son, and my sex drive took a back seat. Using lubricants can help with dryness, but it’s essential to communicate with your partner about how you’re feeling. If you’re not ready, that’s more than okay! The focus should be on mutual understanding and patience.

Tips for Managing Postpartum Libido

If you’re itching to get this show on the road, there are ways to support your postpartum sex drive.

• Have open, honest conversations with your partner.
• Focus on foods that increase libido.
• Engage in regular physical activity (for a boost of endorphins).
• Explore new ways to feel sexy! Feeling good about your body positively influences your libido. Treat yourself to new lingerie, pamper yourself, or engage in activities that make you feel confident and attractive.
• Set realistic expectations. Focus on gradual improvements and celebrate small milestones in your journey back to intimacy.

Embracing Your New Normal

For most, returning to sex after pregnancy is a long-winded journey. For me, it was a process that required patience, communication, and self-compassion. Ultimately, it’s essential to prioritize your well-being and to move at a pace that’s comfortable for you. Remember, it’s okay to not feel ready, and it’s okay to seek help if you need it! Your body has undergone a remarkable transformation, and it deserves all the time it needs to feel like yours again.

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Featured image from our interview with Ariel Kaye by Teal Thomsen.

An Honest Conversation on Mom Guilt

Even after three months of bed rest, I felt like a stranger to my little one. We hadn’t shared any bonding moments or experiences. He couldn’t even smile at me yet. My work was on hold, my life had slowed down, and I was expected to fill the gap of my eleven-year career with round-the-clock childcare. It was a challenging transition, and the guilt of not feeling completely fulfilled by motherhood weighed heavily on me.

Recently, I came across some deeply honest articles on mom guilt. One that resonated most was an excerpt from In Kind Magazine.

“Becoming a mother can feel like turning into a different person when all you want to be is the woman you worked so hard to become.”

– Becky Nielsen Filipski for In Kind Magazine

Since it seems like every woman on the planet, including myself, is suffering from the endless loop of mom guilt, I got in touch with Dr. Sarah Oreck, MD, MS for her professional opinion on how to define mom guilt, who it affects, and how to manage it. Ahead, we discuss all things mom guilt—including how to break from the cycle of negative thinking and step into your identity with joy.

Sarah Oreck, MD

Sarah Oreck, MD, MS, is a Columbia University-trained psychiatrist focusing on Women’s Mental Wellness. She runs a private practice in which she combines the most up-to-date medical treatments with talk therapy, meditation, and a whole-body complementary approach. Dr. Oreck is passionate about teaching and regularly lectures at Cedars Sinai Hospital, UCLA, and the Providence Hospital system in addition to her media work.

How do you define mom guilt? 

Mom guilt is a feeling of inadequacy and shame that mothers experience when they feel like they are not doing a good enough job raising their children. It stems from unrealistic expectations about what motherhood “should” look like.

These feelings can be exacerbated by social media portrayals of idealized motherhood and can significantly impact a mother’s mental health, leading to anxiety, depression, and chronic stress. Addressing mom guilt involves recognizing these unrealistic expectations, fostering self-compassion, and seeking support when needed.

How common is mom guilt?

Mom guilt is quite normal and many women experience it. It arises from the pressure to meet societal expectations of perfect motherhood and the challenges of balancing various responsibilities.

As a reproductive psychiatrist, I often see mothers feeling guilty about not spending enough time with their children, struggling with work-life balance, or comparing themselves to others. Understanding that these feelings are common can help mothers practice self-compassion and seek support when needed, knowing they are not alone in this experience.

Tips for Managing Mom Guilt

• Be patient with yourself. It takes time to adjust to motherhood, and making mistakes is part of the journey. Be kind and gentle with yourself—just like you are with your babies.
• Don’t compare yourself to other moms. Everyone parents differently and has different circumstances. Focus on what works for you and your family.
• Ask for help when you need it. Don’t be afraid to ask for help from your partner, family, friends, or a professional.
• Take care of yourself. Make sure to get enough sleep, eat healthy foods, and move your body. Taking care of yourself will make you a better mom.

In addition to Dr. Oreck’s insights, I wanted to share a few tips that personally helped me in my experience grappling with mom guilt. Intentionally defining my values as a mother was key. It helped me get clear on the things I needed and wanted to do as a mother and release the external pressures that didn’t resonate.

I’ve also learned to prioritize quality connection with my kids. This has helped me focus my energy and feel like I’m giving enough to others while still maintaining a strong relationship with myself.

When should you seek help managing mom guilt?

You should seek professional help if your feelings of guilt are interfering with your ability to parent or to enjoy your life. Notice if you are feeling overwhelmed, hopeless, or are developing symptoms of depression or anxiety. It’s possible that you may have thoughts of harming yourself or that life isn’t worth living or you have a history of mental health problems. A therapist can help you understand the root of your guilt and to develop healthy coping mechanisms. They can also provide you with support and guidance as you work to overcome your guilt.

The Takeaway

Motherhood is a journey best traveled with support. Don’t hesitate to seek the resources you need to make the experience more enjoyable. Through my writing, I’ve realized that motherhood isn’t a one-size-fits-all journey, and the expectations placed on mothers are often unrealistic.

By sharing our truths, we can empower the next generation of mothers to feel heard, safe, and open to shaping their own versions of motherhood. This authenticity helps us move beyond the unrealistic fantasies we’re often judged and compared against.

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Ultimately, now’s the time to lean on your village. And spoiler alert: your family, friends, and community want to help you. You’ll be so grateful you reached out! In turn, you can focus on what truly matters: bonding with your baby and taking care of yourself. This resource covers it all, including postpartum nutrients, how to organize a meal train, and a roundup of meal-preppable recipes.

image above by Michelle Nash for our interview with Camilla Marcus

Edie Horstman

Edie is the founder of nutrition coaching business, Wellness with Edie. With her background and expertise, she specializes in women’s health, including fertility, hormone balance, and postpartum wellness.

Why Postpartum Meal Prep Matters

After your baby is born, having nutritious, ready-to-eat meals at your fingertips makes a world of a difference. They’ll provide nourishment and energy, save your sanity, and ease the burden of unnecessary house chores. Envision warming up a bowl of hearty soup or digging into a wholesome slice of lasagna. Sound comforting? Ultimately, having meal prepped dishes will provide a sense of stability. (Just what the doctor ordered.)

What to Know About Postpartum Nutrition

As you start brainstorming postpartum meals, don’t underestimate the importance of nutrition. Certain nutrients play a critical (and game-changing!) role in healing and recovery, energy levels, breastmilk production, and emotional well-being.

Of course, adequate calories are also necessary to fuel the demands of motherhood. This means the requirements for all macronutrients—and the large majority of micronutrients—increase during postpartum. You’ll need starchy carbs for slow-digesting energy, protein for satiation and rebuilding tissue, and healthy fats for blood sugar stability. Last but not least, don’t forget digestion. Cooked veggies and probiotic-rich foods are key for a thriving postpartum gut.

And if you plan on breastfeeding, you’ll need 350-500+ additional calories per day!

What to Eat After Your Baby Arrives

Think: hydrating, easy-to-digest, nutrient-dense meals like soup with rice, a sweet potato with soft-boiled eggs, or steel-cut oats with almond butter and stewed berries. All of the organs in your abdomen are going through a massive shift, and digestion is likely to be compromised. Stock your fridge and pantry with the following ingredients:

• Eggs. Packed with choline (to support your mental health and baby’s brain development), pastured eggs are one of the most nutritious and convenient ingredients to have on hand. For plant-forward mamas, opt for non-GMO soy/tofu for a source of choline.
• Greens. Asparagus, spinach, kale, and arugula are a versatile source of folate, which supports the production of new cells, aids in tissue repair, and helps prevent anemia.
• Avocado. As a postpartum mom, avocados help you—and your baby—absorb fat-soluble vitamins and can benefit your baby’s developing brain. For a quick and satisfying snack, sprinkle half an avocado with nutritional yeast and flake salt. Drizzle with balsamic glaze. Eat with a spoon or seedy crackers.
• Berries. Keep bags of organic berries in your freezer to top your granola, oatmeal, or add to smoothies. Their fiber and antioxidants are important for postpartum mamas.
• Legumes. Another source of folate, legumes are a nutritious addition to bowls and salads. Keep canned lentils, chickpeas, and black beans in the pantry to bulk up your lunches and dinners.
• Bone broth. Rich in minerals and collagen, this superfood aligns with the traditional practice of serving new mothers warm beverages (and soups) to heal her body.
• Fermented ingredients. Kimchi, miso, kefir, sauerkraut, and yogurt aid in digestion, nourish breast milk, and help rebuild the microbiome.
• Nut butter. Monounsaturated fats, the majority of fat found in nuts, help combat emotional fluctuations by steadying blood sugar. Snack on a handful of walnuts or add nut butter to toast, smoothies, and oatmeal.
• Seeds. Chia, flax, and hemp seeds are easy (and nutrient-dense) additions to smoothies, oatmeal, and avocado toast. They’re rich in omega-3 fatty acids for hormone balance and brain health.
• Coconut. Another healthy fat to incorporate, it’s known to nourish breast milk.
• Sardines. These are packed with a variety of nutrients that new mothers need—DHA, calcium, and vitamin D3. They’re also one of the richest sources of choline! Available tinned, keep them in your pantry for an easy addition to savory meals.
• Root veggies. These comfort foods (beets, acorn squash, butternut squash, etc.) are easy to roast and pair well with any protein. Plus, they keep well in the fridge. Pair them with a healthy fat to help keep blood sugar stable—like tahini or avocado—and increase the absorption of nutrients like beta-carotene.
• Grass-fed liver. Liver is rich in vitamin A, which helps replete blood loss after birth. If eating liver makes you squeamish, you can opt for a grass-fed liver supplement (or add liver to your food processor along with ground beef to make these meatballs!).
• Greek yogurt. If you tolerate lactose, organic/pasture-raised Greek yogurt is a convenient source of protein and probiotics. Cottage cheese is another dairy source worth stocking up on!

Benefits of Meal Prepping Before Your Baby Arrives

You’ll be so relieved you carved out the time! This is why:

Better Planning

Newborn care. Newborns require a lot of attention, and while their needs are simple, they’re often unpredictable. Having meals prepped means you spend less time cooking and more time attending to your baby.

Sleep deprivation. Prepped food eases the burden of having to cook when you’re exhausted.

Optimal Nutrition

Balanced diet. Prepping meals in advance is the best way to maintain a balanced diet, which is crucial for recovery post-delivery and—if breastfeeding—for milk production.

Healthy choices. Rather than reach for ultra-processed foods when you’re hangry, you’ll have healthier choices to nosh on (for better satiation and stable energy).

Stress Reduction

Ease and convenience. This goes without saying, but knowing your meals are taken care of reduces daily stress.

Lessens decision fatigue. With meals/snacks already prepped, you eliminate the need to make extra decisions.

Economic Benefits

Cost savings. If you have the fridge/freezer space, preparing meals in bulk is more economical than buying one-off ingredients or ordering frequent takeout.

Waste reduction. Preplanned meals help in minimizing food waste as you buy and use exactly what you need.

Flexibility

Adaptability. Prepped meals—particularly those that are pre-portioned— provide flexibility at meal times and reduce the pressure to cook fresh meals daily.

Quick meals. Having ready-to-eat/easy-to-prepare meals are lifesavers during unexpected busy or challenging days.

The Best Types of Postpartum Foods to Freeze

Based on your food preferences and dietary preferences, consider the following foods to make ahead and freeze!

Soups and stews

• Chicken soup. Packed with protein and vegetables, this chicken and rice soup is comforting and easy to reheat.
• Vegetable soup. This Moroccan veggie soup is a cozy, plant-forward lunch or dinner.

Casseroles

• Lasagna. Loaded with veggies, protein, and cheese for a balanced meal.
• Enchiladas. Filled with beans, chicken, or beef, and topped with cheese, these enchilada stuffed zucchini boats are divine.

Curries and chili

• Lentil curry. Full of spices and plant protein, this coconut curry is delicious with rice or naan.
• Vegetarian chili. Beans and veggies provide fiber and protein in this vegetarian chili. (It’s a house fave!)

Baked goods

• Muffins. Take your pick: morning glory muffins, banana nut muffins, and grain-free zucchini muffins are all to die for (and freeze well).
• Breakfast burritos. Filled with eggs or tofu, cheese, and veggies, these burritos can be individually wrapped and frozen.
• Quiche. Cut this veggie quiche into portions for freezing.

Grain Bowls

Quinoa or rice bowls. Follow this guide for making your own SweetGreen at home.

Pasta dishes

Comfort food. This vegan mac and cheese is the definition of cozy cuisine.

Smoothie packs

Pre-portioned smoothie ingredients. Freeze bags with fruits, veggies, and nuts/seeds for quick, nutritious smoothies.

Tips for Freezing Your Postpartum Meals

Now that you have your meals made and prepped, here are a few tips you can follow to ensure they keep well and are ready in a pinch. Work smarter, not harder.

• Label and date each container before freezing. Ideally, with the name of the dish and the date it was frozen, as most need to be consumed within three months of freezing.
• Pack properly. Use airtight containers or freezer bags to prevent freezer burn.
• Make reheating a breeze. Freezing meals in individual or family-sized portions ensures you have exactly as much as you need, whenever you need it.
• Include instructions. Write out how to reheat each meal on a label attached to each container.

What is a meal train?

A meal train is an organized initiative that brings your village together. Family, friends, colleagues, and members of your community band together to support you with meals during a joyous life event (a new baby!) or an extremely challenging loss. This thoughtful gesture is two-fold: it provides much-needed nutritional support and delivers a powerful message of love and support.

Ultimately, a meal train shows how small acts of kindness can make a significant impact during life’s most profound—and transitional—moments. As a postpartum mama, a meal train is worth gold.

How to Set Up a Meal Train

It’s easy! First, decide what process you want to use to communicate to your village. This is also how you’ll compile signups. A basic Google Sheet does the job, or you can use a platform like Meal Train or Take Them A Meal. These are helpful for providing a schedule and avoiding duplicates.

Ask one person to be the “leader”—they’ll make sure your meal train runs smoothly. Next, share the meal train link via email (or social media). In your message, thank your community for their generosity and support. Emphasize how their nourishing meals will help you focus on rest, recovery, and your newborn. Gently encourage your friends and family to participate! Last but not least (and this goes without saying), make your meal/snack preferences very clear. That way, you aren’t receiving food you don’t want.

Meal Train Tips

Beyond listing specific postpartum meal prep meals, make sure to include things like:

• Preferred recipes (link to your favorite dishes)
• Allergies, intolerances, or dietary preferences (i.e., No dairy, please!)
• Ideal drop-off windows and where to leave the food (i.e., Leave on the front porch, but text before you come—hopefully it’s a good time for you to meet our newest bundle!)
• Restaurants you love and what you typically order (for those who feel more comfortable getting you takeout)
• Your leader’s contact info

6 Postpartum Meal Prep Ideas

To bring this full circle: as a soon-to-be mama, don’t underestimate the energy and strength you’ll need during the early postpartum weeks! Ideally, extended family and friends will bring you food, but you can also prepare healthy, pre-cooked freezer meals and snacks before your little one arrives. These are some of our faves.

1. Zuppa Toscana

This soup is hearty, satisfying, and packed with anti-inflammatory ingredients. Make a batch of this nourishing recipe for (multiple) healing lunches or dinners.

Other soups we love: Chicken and Rice and Vegan Butternut Squash.

2. Banana Nut Muffins

Keep these in your freezer and pop one or two into the microwave for a wholesome yet decadent boost of energy. Pair a muffin with a cup of Greek yogurt for a satisfying breastfeeding snack.

Other baked goods we love: Healthy Oatmeal Cookies.

3. Slow Cooker Chicken Tikka Masala

You heard it here first: outsource this healthy chicken tikka masala recipe to a friend, and voilà, you’ll think twice about ordering takeout. Keep a bag of microwavable rice in the freezer—or better yet, naan!—and dinner is served.

Other Indian-inspired recipes we love: Butter Cauliflower and Saag Paneer.

4. Vegan Meatballs

Prep these meatballs in advance, pop them in the freezer, and eat them reheated on a bed of pasta, quinoa, or couscous. With cannelini beans as the base, you’re getting a substantial amount of fiber and protein in these flavorful, versatile meatballs.

Other patties we love: Sweet Potato Falafel Burgers and Chicken Burger Lettuce Wraps.

5. Immunity-Boosting Vegetable Soup

This soup packs a major nutritional punch. Plus, it’s a convenient way to pack an inordinate amount of green veggies into one very wholesome meal. Have it with a slice of toasted sourdough (or a simple grilled cheese) for a plant-forward lunch.

Other veggie meals we love: Vegetarian Chili.

6. Grain-Free Granola

You’ll want to eat this grain-free granola by the handful. For added staying power, enjoy over a bowl of yogurt and top your granola with berries for fiber and antioxidants. It’s a quick breakfast—or hearty snack—when breastfeeding hunger strikes.

Another granola we love: Honey Nut and Cinnamon Granola.

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Edie Horstman

Edie is the founder of nutrition coaching business, Wellness with Edie. With her background and expertise, she specializes in women’s health, including fertility, hormone balance, and postpartum wellness.

What is postpartum?

Postpartum refers to the time frame immediately after childbirth. Also known as the puerperium, this period typically lasts about six weeks—although its exact length varies. From a medical perspective, it includes the return of a woman’s uterus to its pre-pregnancy size. There are actually three distinct phases of the postnatal period: the acute phase (6-12 hours after delivery), the subacute phase (six weeks), and the delayed phase (upwards of six months). Ultimately, postpartum is a critical time for healing, adjusting, bonding, and adapting to new parenthood.

Postpartum Misconceptions

Unfortunately, postpartum is both misunderstood and underemphasized. Thanks to societal stigmas (and for that matter, social media!), postpartum’s true intensity flies under the radar. In turn, this contributes to a slew of misconceptions. For example, many new parents assume the postpartum period is over after six weeks. But in all reality, that’s just the beginning. Recovery can take upwards of a year—or more.

Beyond physical changes, hormones and emotions need ample time to adjust. Proper recovery is a long, winding road. Knowing this helps set realistic expectations, encouraging a smoother transition into motherhood.

A Season of Rest

In the first few weeks after birth, you’re not only getting to know your baby, but you’re also learning about yourself—as a mother, caregiver, and nurturer. It is a massive undertaking. Especially as a first-time mom. Women experience physical, mental, and emotional changes unlike anything else. As a Certified Nutrition Consultant—with a specialty in postpartum nutrition—I am particularly passionate about helping women navigate this tender time. It’s a dynamic season, one that’s synonymous with healing, resting, and acclimating.

What happens to your hormones after giving birth?

During pregnancy, estrogen and progesterone increase significantly. However, once the placenta is removed after birth, these two hormones take a sharp—but intentional—dip. In essence, these estrogen and progesterone must drop for breastfeeding hormones, like prolactin and oxytocin, to do their job. Simultaneously, oxytocin surges to stimulate uterine contractions. This helps you bond with your newborn. That said, this dramatic shift often contributes to significant emotional swings.

The Baby Blues

Unsurprisingly, these hormonal fluctuations have an impact on emotional stability. The so-called “baby-blues”—where women can feel weepy, tearful, and overwhelmed—typically last for a few days (or up to 1-2 weeks). However, they can last significantly longer. If that’s the case, or they’re accompanied by anxiety, despair, or are preventing you from being able to complete daily tasks, it is important to seek evaluation for postpartum depression.

Normal Postpartum Physical Changes

Speaking of hormonal fluctuations, let’s talk about postpartum physical changes. Low estrogen levels—which stay low until you re-start your menstrual cycle, typically last throughout the duration of breastfeeding. And low estrogen can contribute to postpartum hot flashes, pelvic floor dysfunction, vaginal dryness and low libido. Hair loss (telogen effluvium) is another common symptom. However, normal hair patterns usually return by 6-15 months postpartum. Inevitably, eating to support these internal and external shifts is key.

Lifestyle Tips for a Healthy Postpartum Period

Before we dive into postpartum nutrition, what are lifestyle tips and habits that can support a nourished postpartum period?

Rest and sleep

Sleep is crucial for everyone—pregnant, postpartum, or not! But for obvious reasons, it’s the most challenging to prioritize. Nap when you can and enlist childcare support from friends and family members. It’s important to remember that sleep deprivation (and chronic stress) during the postpartum period can lead to sugar cravings, additional weight gain, and inflammation.

Hydration

Drinking plenty of water supports bodily functions and is crucial for breastfeeding mothers. Sipping on bone broth and herbal teas can also aid in everything from digestive support to mineral replenishment.

Physical activity

Once you’re cleared to exercise, go for it. Moving your body is extremely beneficial for your mental and physical well-being. Exercise helps with natural detoxification, blood sugar balance (which can help stabilize postpartum hormones), provides a boost in endorphins, helps strengthen your core after giving birth, and so much more. Whether it’s pilates, strength training, or walking, aim for consistency.

Emotional support

In case you need the reminder, your village wants to help you. If there’s ever a time to call in your support system, it’s right after you’ve given birth. Along with counseling, many women find that working with a postpartum doula can speed up their recovery time. In the very least, lean on friends and family members to help you with basic house chores and light cooking. You’re not expected to do it all—especially in the early postpartum months.

Why is postpartum nutrition important?

It’s vital for several reasons: healing and recovery, energy levels, breastmilk production, and emotional well-being. Proper nutrients are needed for everything from tissue repair to muscle recovery. They also help maintain energy levels, which—of course—are crucial when caring for a newborn. And if you’re a breastfeeding mama, you need adequate calories to produce quality breastmilk. Last but not least, certain nutrients can impact mood and help manage postpartum depression.

Nourishing Your Body After Childbirth

No matter what part of the world they live in, traditional cultures prioritize postpartum foods that are warm, soft, and easily digestible.

Additionally, new mothers are encouraged to eat slowly (easier said than done!) and sip nutrient-dense broths. For that matter, cold foods are usually not recommended. After all, these cultures believe cold foods slow down circulation (essential for optimal healing). Additionally, weight loss shouldn’t be an immediate goal. Rather, it’s best to focus on a postpartum diet that’s rich in high-quality protein, healthy fats, and cooked produce.Try to avoid high sugar and ultra-processed foods and instead focus on whole, mostly unprocessed foods.

Postpartum Nutrition: What to Prioritize

In the early days after birth, lean into foods you might turn to when recovering from the flu. Think hydrating, easy-to-digest, nutrient-dense meals like soup with sourdough bread, cooked veggies with soft-boiled eggs, and steel-cut oats with almond butter and anti-inflammatory fruit. As you can imagine, all of the organs in the abdomen are going through a massive shift, and digestion is likely to be compromised.

Eating enough

As mentioned, caloric needs increase for breastfeeding women (anywhere from 300-1,000 calories, daily). This means that requirements for all macronutrients—and the large majority of micronutrients—increase during this time as well. 

Getting a balance of macronutrients

To break this down, postpartum moms need an adequate balance of carbs, protein, and fats. Starchy carbs (grains, squashes, sweet potatoes, etc.) are energy-rich and help build milk supply. Protein is the most satiating and helps rebuild tissue and muscle (aim for 25-40 grams of protein per meal). Last but not least, don’t forget healthy fats. These help stabilize blood sugar, balance hormones, and nourish breast milk.

Supporting digestion 

A raw, high-fiber salad may seem like the epitome of a healthy meal, but if your digestion is compromised (normal during the fourth trimester!), that salad is akin to throwing wet logs on a weak fire. When digestion is weak, it’s best to consume cooked and fermented vegetables. A digestive enzyme is worth exploring if you foresee digestion being an issue during postpartum.

Micronutrients That Support Postpartum Healing

Along with eating enough, getting a balance of macronutrients, and supporting digestion, below are specific micronutrients that foster postpartum health.

Choline-Rich Foods

Postpartum women need choline to support mental health and brain function. It’s also important for a baby’s brain development.

• Poultry: Eggs and chicken breast.
• Liver: One of the richest sources of choline!
• Soy: A plant-based source of choline for plant-forward mamas.

Folate-Rich Foods

Folate supports the production of new cells, aids in tissue repair, and helps prevent anemia by supporting red blood cell formation (crucial for recovery and overall health after childbirth!).

• Greens: Asparagus, spinach, kale, and arugula.
• Legumes: Lentils, chickpeas, and black beans.
• Fruit: Avocado and oranges.

Omega-3-Rich Foods

Healthy fats (particularly, omega-3 fatty acids) are essential for balanced hormones, brain function, and the absorption of fat-soluble vitamins.

• Fish: Salmon, mackerel, and sardines are rich in omega-3 fatty acids (take advantage of tinned fish!).
• Cruciferous vegetables: Brussels sprouts.
• Nuts and seeds: Walnuts, chia seeds, hemp seeds, and flaxseeds.

Iron-Rich Foods

Iron helps replenish blood loss during childbirth and supports energy levels.

• Red meat: Beef and lamb are rich sources of heme iron.
• Leafy greens: Spinach, kale, and swiss chard provide non-heme iron.
• Fortified cereals: Many breakfast cereals are fortified with iron.
• Nuts and seeds: Pumpkin seeds, almonds, and cashews.

Calcium-Rich Foods

Calcium is crucial for bone health, especially if breastfeeding.

• Dairy Products: Organic (ideally, pasture-raised!) milk, cheese, and yogurt.
• Leafy greens: Broccoli, bok choy, and kale.
• Fortified plant milks: Unsweetened almond, soy, or flax milk.

Fiber-Rich Foods

Fiber aids in digestion and prevents constipation, which is common postpartum.

• Whole grains: Oats, quinoa, brown rice, and whole wheat bread.
• Fruits: Apples, pears, berries, and bananas.
• Vegetables: Carrots, sweet potatoes, and peas.
• Legumes: Beans, lentils, and chickpeas.

Other micronutrients to emphasize include magnesium, zinc, and B vitamins!

6 Supportive Postpartum Foods

With those micronutrients in mind, below are six postpartum foods that are worth keeping in your pantry and fridge.

1. Bone broth

Slow-simmered bone broth plays a key role in the postpartum practices of many traditional cultures. Not only is bone broth nutrient-dense and a rich source of collagen, but it also aligns with the traditional practice of serving new mothers warm bevvies and soups (rather than cold food).

2. Fermented ingredients

These aid in digestion, nourish breast milk, and help rebuild the microbiome—particularly for those administered antibiotics during labor. Think: kimchi, miso, tempeh, kefir, sauerkraut, etc.

3. Nut butter

Did you know that monounsaturated fats—the majority of fat found in nuts—help combat emotional fluctuations (and for that matter, fatigue!) by steadying blood sugar? A quick spoonful of nut butter can be a savior in the early postpartum days. Coconut, although not a nut, is another healthy fat to incorporate. It’s known to nourish breast milk.

4. Sardines

Sardines are a rich source of many important nutrients that new mothers need. Think: DHA, calcium, and vitamin D3. They are also available canned, which makes them a quick and easy addition to a meal.

5. Root veggies

These comfort foods (beets, acorn squash, butternut squash, etc.) are easy to roast and keep well in the fridge. Pair them with healthy fat to help keep blood sugar stable—like tahini or avocado—and increase the absorption of nutrients like beta-carotene.

6. Grass-fed liver

Rich in iron to replete losses from birth, liver is rich in vitamin A. This does double the work: supports your immune system and promotes repair of the mucous membranes in the vaginal canal. If eating liver makes you squeamish, you can opt for a grass-fed liver supplement or add liver to your food processor along with ground beef (to make these meatballs!).

Warming Spices for Postpartum

Of course, don’t forget warming spices! These are tiny but mighty nutrients to warm your postpartum body from the inside out.

• Turmeric: Incredibly supportive for the early postpartum period. Known as a uterotonic, this herb gently stimulates the uterus, which helps it return to its pre-pregnancy size. Curcumin, the active compound in turmeric, gives the root its rich, golden color. It has powerful anti-inflammatory properties that aid recovery after birth.
• Ginger: Organs shift during pregnancy to make room for your baby, which can lead to digestive complications after birth. Not only is ginger great for digestion, but it’s also a lactogenic herb that can support milk supply. 
• Cinnamon and cardamom: These help warm the body, increase circulation, and restore energy. Add them to your oats and lattes.

Ingredients That Aid in Breastmilk Production

Can certain foods and herbs support lactation? The research says yes. Along with the aforementioned macro and micronutrients, hone in on oats (a traditional galactagogue), fenugreek, brewer’s yeast, fennel seeds, and garlic. Of course, staying hydrated is also critical for milk production. Drink plenty of filtered water, herbal teas (like fenugreek and fennel teas), chicken or veggie broth, and high-water produce like cucumbers and oranges.

Helpful Postpartum Supplements

While food should be the primary source of nutrients after childbirth, certain supplements can support postpartum recovery:

Prenatal vitamins: Continue taking your prenatal vitamin to ensure adequate intake of essential nutrients. My favorites? Perelel and WeNatal.

Omega-3 fatty acids: Taking fish oil can help with inflammation and support brain health.

Vitamin D: Vitamin D supports bone health and immune function, especially important if you have limited sun exposure.

Probiotics: Can aid digestion and support a healthy gut microbiome.

Iron: If you have low iron levels (via a blood test), an iron supp may be necessary.

Stocking Your Freezer with Healthy Meals and Snacks 

To bring this full circle: eating nourishing foods is an essential part of recovering after birth—as well as replenishing breast milk. You need the energy and strength to care for yourself while simultaneously caring for your baby. And this is no small feat! Ideally, extended family and friends will bring you food, but you can also prepare healthy, pre-cooked freezer meals and snacks before your little one arrives.

1. Turmeric Chicken Immunity Soup

With the notion that food is medicine, this soup has easy-to-find ingredients and is loaded with anti-inflammatory ingredients. Make a batch of this nourishing recipe for multiple healing lunches or dinners.

Other postpartum soups we love: Curry Red Lentil and Vegan Butternut Squash.

2. One-Bowl Morning Glory Muffins

Keep these in your freezer and pop one or two into the microwave for a wholesome yet decadent boost of energy. Pair a muffin with a cup of Greek yogurt for a satisfying postpartum snack.

3. Asparagus Frittata

Not only are eggs rich in choline and vitamin D, but they’re a convenient and versatile ingredient to have on hand. Prep this frittata ahead of time, slice, and keep it in the freezer for any time of day.

4. Chicken Burger Lettuce Wraps

Prep these patties in advance, pop them in the freezer, and eat them reheated on a bed of greens, in a sandwich, or in a bowl over brown rice.

5. Chocolate Banana Almond Butter Smoothie

Don’t underestimate smoothie baggies! Put together bags of fruit, protein powder, seeds, and nuts. Keep these in the freezer, add the ingredients to a blender (along with milk, yogurt, etc.) and your hydrating smoothie will be ready in no time.

The Best Postpartum Meal Delivery Services

When it comes to enhancing your postpartum health—in a convenient way that doesn’t skimp on nutrients—consider the following postpartum meal delivery services:

• Chiyo: Eastern food therapy meets nutritional science with this deeply nourishing postpartum meal delivery service. Their holistic, inclusive, and proactive approach to maternal care makes it that much easier to heal your body.
• Milky Oat: The testimonials speak for themselves. Milky Oat offers a six-week program for intentional fuel during the early postpartum days—and women rave about it. You can also tack on meals for your partner!
• Kitchen Doula: This program offers nourishing meals for motherhood, healing, and beyond. Whether it’s your first months home with a new baby, you’re recovering from illness or injury, or grieving from loss, Kitchen Doula is here to support you.
• Territory: While not a postpartum-specific meal delivery service, Territory’s crew of nutrition advisors bring their unique perspectives, advanced training, and real world know-how to the table. Plus, unlike other services that churn meals out of massive central commissaries, their independent chefs work in their own fully certified, local commercial kitchens!

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To gain back that sense of control over our lives, I dove deep into the nitty gritty of managing my family’s schedule. What’s more, I also wanted to teach my young children to take ownership of the task as well. I got in touch with some experts in the industry and tested a few ideas with my family. This is everything I learned—from the tools that make sense to the tips (or tricks, hehe) I used to get some buy-in from my kids. 

How to Organize Your Family Calendar

To be clear: understanding how to organize your family schedule is more than simply writing down dates and times. First, I wanted to identify all the pieces of the schedule I needed to know. Essentially, when I look at the family calendar, I want to have all the details of each event at the ready. That way, no matter what info I need, it’s there for me to quickly scan. This includes:

• Who and how you get there
• What you might need while there
• Necessary contacts

Whatever app or organizational tool you use needs to have all these functions or you’ll have to do double the work. Ahead, I’m sharing the habits and practices my family has implemented to ensure we’re all on the same page.

Tips for Getting Your Family on the Same Page

Here’s the thing: a family calendar doesn’t work unless everyone’s on board. And because the goal is to have a living document (digital or otherwise) that accurately tracks where everyone is at all times, every family member has to be committed to making that happen. By following the tips ahead, my husband and I have helped my young children learn to take responsibility for their own schedules, and in turn, we can all live more in sync throughout the week.

Plan regular family meetings. Schedule weekly or monthly family meetings to discuss upcoming events, changes to the schedule, and any conflicts that need to be resolved.

Sync with individual calendars. If family members have calendars (e.g., work or school), consider syncing them with the central family calendar to avoid double booking. Also, make space to share how the workload feels for you. This is a good time for stress-checking. Different times of the year can have added stress—for example, the holiday—so make room for discussing the load. 

Use a central calendar. Choose a digital or physical calendar where everyone can see and update events. This could be a shared Google Calendar, scheduling app, or a family planner hung on the refrigerator or in the mudroom or anywhere the whole family can access. 

Color-coding users. This is vital if you’re a visual person like me. Assign different colors to each family member to make it easier to see who has what scheduled at a glance. I like to let the kids pick their colors. The more they can be a part of the scheduling, the more buy-in you will get from them.

Set up reminders. I like to set a reminder for an hour before leaving and when we need to go. That’s why adding the location is crucial. 

Delegate and own tasks. Determine which events and tasks are the most important and delegate responsibilities accordingly. This can help prevent overcommitment and reduce stress.

Be flexible. Understand that schedules may change occasionally due to unforeseen circumstances. Stay adaptable and communicate openly with your family about any changes.

The Best Tools to Organize Your Family Schedule

You can have all the strategies set in place, but still—without something to keep track of it all, it can be easy to let a pickup go by the wayside or forget all about a sports practice. Thankfully, there are plenty of tools available to help your family stay organized. Whether you prefer manual or digital, explore the options below and connect with the right strategy for you.

Google Calendar

Almost everyone is familiar with Google Calendar. The big perk is that it’s free and has many features to choose from. Go on YouTube or TikTok for hacks and tips to get the most out of your Google calendar. The only con is that it may be too advanced for younger users who do not have access to a phone or computer. 

Hearth Display

Hearth Display is a centralized touchscreen that makes family organization a more accessible and shared responsibility for everyone in your home. Its intuitive planning and management tools simplify tracking tasks, building routines, developing independence, and sharing meaningful moments. This digital display center has everything you need. Some of the stand-out features for me are its ability to sync to your Google calendar, build in routines, and digitize every paper invite calendar and piece of paper your child gets sent home with. Because Hearth has merged the calendar, app, and everything into one, I contacted them for tips everyone could use. Here’s what they had to say. 

1. Talk about it. Talk about what your partner might not be noticing. And talk about your hopes for dividing labor—seen and unseen—more equally.
2. Aim to share management, not just tasks. Starting by splitting household labor and care work is great. Take the exercise a step further by working to share the mental load of management.
3. Release control. It’s not always perfect. And especially after years of managing a task, or using the rationale, “I’ll just do it,” old habits die hard. When you trust your partner to take on the mental load, you loosen your grip on the details.

Yohana

If you feel completely overwhelmed by your schedule and need to call reinforcements, look no further than Yohana.

Yohana is a personal assistant service that offers a team of Yohana Specialists who can tackle your to-dos and arrange fun experiences. The Yohana Pro & Partner Network, a hand-picked set of third-party providers for bigger household/personal projects; and the Yohana App + Website where you and your team get it all done. Yohana can do everything from making date night reservations to coordinating travel plans and booking reservations based on niche preferences/accommodations, as well as ordering and delivering gifts, researching meal prep recipes, hiring cleaners, and more!

Since I had the Yohana team to contact, I wanted to get some tips from the pros. Yoky Matsuoka is a mom of four, the Managing Executive Officer of Panasonic Holdings, CEO of PanasonicWELL, and CEO of Yohana. This is her advice for anyone wondering how to organize your family calendar.

1. Delegate your to-do list. It’s difficult to let go of household responsibilities as a mother, but making time for delegation reduces much more stress in the long run and creates room for things that matter most (like picking up your kids from school). Whether it’s to your Yohana specialists or your partner, it’s essential to consciously make an effort to delegate.

2. Master context switching. Blurring the line between family and work can lead to disengagement or burnout, and that’s where context switching can help. It’s a learnable skill defined by the ability to focus on one specific task at a time and switch contexts as needed, but ensuring that you’re always immersed in what you’re currently working on rather than multitasking. By context switching, it allows you to be more efficient and able to live in the present.

The Takeaway

Managing a family schedule can be daunting, especially as responsibilities multiply and life becomes busier. However, through personal experience and expert insights, I’ve discovered valuable tools and strategies to streamline the process and alleviate the mental load. From utilizing shared calendars and color-coding events to delegating tasks and embracing flexibility, various approaches suit every family’s needs.

Effective schedule management is about communication, collaboration, and finding a balance that works for everyone. By implementing these tools and tips, I’ve found greater harmony and peace of mind in navigating the intricate dance of family life.

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Featured image from our interview with Ariel Kaye by Teal Thomsen.

7 Self-Care Tips for Parents During the Holiday Season

While self-care practices are important all throughout the year, it’s the piling on of parties, plans, and presents to be bought and wrapped that can wear us down during the holidays. What’s more, as parents of little ones, it’s up to us to make the season magical. That means a lot of effort goes into decking the halls and playing Santa. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, I get it. And that’s where these self-care tips for parents come in handy.

Ahead, I’m sharing not only my ideas to carve out some peace and quiet, but also why these practices are essential—plus tips for incorporating them into your life. Let’s make it happen.

Prioritize Your Needs

One of the best self-care tips for parents I can give you is to prioritize your needs over anyone else’s. And no, it’s not selfish! Prioritizing your needs ensures you have the energy and emotional well-being to care for your family effectively.

If there is anything on your list that doesn’t bring you joy, consider removing it.

Make a list of your needs and schedule time for self-care activities. Communicate your needs with your partner, friends, and family. And be sure to ask for support when you need it. If there is anything on your list that doesn’t bring you joy, consider removing it. I mean it: allow yourself to do less!

Set Realistic Expectations

Unrealistic expectations can lead to stress and disappointment. Realistic expectations can help you maintain a sense of balance. Reflect on past holiday seasons and set achievable goals. Be open to reevaluating things that may have felt stressful in years past. Practice flexibility and be open to adjustments as needed. Is attending a seven-course meal with toddlers doable? Do you want to mail and address one hundred holiday cards? Check in with yourself and ask how realistic this is. And be honest: are you taking on too much?

Practice Mindfulness

It’s all too easy to get swept up in the busyness of the holidays, putting ourselves on auto-pilot as we power through everything we need to do. This year, I challenge you to practice mindfulness before diving into it all. Mindfulness techniques can reduce stress, improve focus, and help you stay present in the moment.

Set aside a few minutes each day for mindfulness exercises. Create a vision board or visualize how you want to feel during the holidays: peaceful, present, and loved by family and friends. When you can give yourself the time to focus on what truly matters, it’s easier to let go of anything that isn’t serving you.

Less Screen Time, More Real Connections

Reducing screen time promotes face-to-face interactions and healthier family bonding. Set screen time limits for both yourself and your children. Use the extra time for quality family activities or relaxation. Social media often presents a polished highlight reel for most people. During the holidays, this effect can be even more pronounced, with everyone posting pictures of perfect trees, family photos, or matching pajama sets.

For some of us, the pressure to do it all can feel overwhelming and disheartening. If social media is making you feel inadequate, consider taking a break. (We dive into the importance and step-by-step details of taking a holiday social media detox.) Remember, comparison is the thief of joy. Instead, reach out to friends and family who understand your challenges and values. They can provide emotional support and connection through calls, texts, or video chats.

Stay Active

Regular exercise is a potent stress reliever and mood enhancer, yet it often gets pushed aside, especially when we have guests in town or when our kids are home from school.  Instead, continue your fitness routine or explore creative ways to stay active, like family walks, dance parties, or holiday-themed workouts.

Did you know that exercising may reduce your bad mental health days by 40%?  In my family, we are big fans of healthy competition, from pickleball matches to relay races involving the entire family, which can help reduce everyone’s stress levels. There’s also nothing wrong with carving out some alone time to stick to your exercise routine. Modeling self-care for your children will only help reinforce the importance of it for themselves. Get started with our favorite workouts.

Practice Good Sleep Habits

I’ll be the first to admit that I often stay up late during the holidays to get things done while my kids are sleeping. While checking off items on my to-do list in silence can be enjoyable, it can lead to rough mornings and long days. Add holiday parties that keep you out late and occasional holiday alcohol consumption, and you might find yourself navigating the holidays with a sleep deficit.

Lack of sleep is no joke. Anxiety and sleep deprivation have been proven to go hand-in-hand. Self-care starts with good sleep habits. Make sure you’re getting a full eight hours of rest. Consider limiting your alcohol intake to ensure sound sleep, and don’t forget the power of a 20-minute power nap. If you struggle to fall asleep, try implementing some healthy sleep habits.

Make Space for Emotions

While some of us feel like it’s the happiest time of the year, others may feel sad or depressed during the holidays. Regardless of which emotions the holidays evoke, it’s important to make time to reflect on and embrace them as they come up. This can involve a gratitude practice or picking up the phone to share your feelings with someone. If you find yourself feeling lonely during the holidays, make a plan to get yourself out of the house and into the community. There are numerous opportunities to get involved during this time of year.

The Takeaway

By understanding the importance of these self-care practices and integrating them into your daily routine, you can navigate the holiday season more smoothly and savor the precious moments with your family. I hope you can incorporate these self-care tips for parents into your life and make the most of your time with family! Happy holiday season, everyone!

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Featured image by Zachary Gray.

7 Ways to Cultivate Mindful Mornings With Kids

As we approach the holidays, when time seems to fly by even faster and stress seeps in, it’s the perfect moment to share ideas for spending mindful mornings with your kids. Ahead, discover mindfulness activities that can help you and your children begin your day in a more peaceful and meaningful way. Trust me, prioritizing a peaceful start will make everyone’s day better.

Connect With Your Kids in the Morning

The last thing anyone wants first thing in the morning is to start the day with orders or instructions. Thanks to gentle parenting classes, I’ve learned the importance of connecting with my kids before anything else. For us, this means a gentle wake-up hug and a moment in bed asking them about their dreams or how they feel as they wake up.

If your kids wake up before you, consider inviting them to sit on the edge of your bed and share their morning thoughts. It’s a brief 3-5 minute check-in that sets a positive tone for the day and makes it easier to collaborate on the next steps to get out the door.

Form a Morning Practice With Your Kids

Pre-children, I enjoyed a cup of coffee and some journaling to kickstart my day. While those luxuries are less frequent now, I still prioritize my morning practice, and I want to instill a similar routine in my kids. Given their age, we’ve started with a simple breathing technique—inhaling through the nose for four seconds and exhaling through the mouth for four seconds, repeating four times. It not only brings laughter but also infuses peace into our mornings.

Connect With Your Kids in Nature

Living in California allows us to enjoy the outdoors almost year-round. Even if you reside in a colder climate, spending a few minutes outside together can help ground you. This might involve having breakfast in the backyard, walking to school, or simply opening the front door, sitting on the porch barefoot, and saying, “Good morning, world, it’s me [your name].” (My husband came up with that one.)

Start the Day With Affirmations

You’ve probably seen those heartwarming Instagram moments where parents speak affirmations to their children. I’m a huge fan of this practice, especially during routine tasks like brushing hair, applying sunscreen, or washing hands. It not only distracts them from tasks they might not want to do but also pumps them up for the day ahead.

Set a Positive Tone in the Morning

We all have those days when we wake up feeling slightly off, and the same can happen to our kids. When I sense a gloomy morning, I know it’s time to change the energy in the room. My go-to solution is putting on some happy jazz music on Spotify. It’s incredible how a few cheerful tunes can transform the atmosphere and set a more positive tone for the day ahead.

Move Your Body Together

Sometimes, we all need a little backup, and I’m not afraid to use the TV for that. While you can certainly do physical activities without a screen, sometimes I prefer not to be the teacher. So, we turn on a yoga session and do five poses. Currently, our favorite is Paw Patrol yoga, but there are plenty of other calming options available if you need them. Using a mirror to practice with can also be really helpful.

Explore Your Senses as a Family

This activity takes a bit more effort, but it’s a great way to spark conversations and have a mindful morning with your kids. You engage all five senses and encourage your kids to join in. For example, while eating cereal at the table, you might say, “The milk feels cold in my mouth. How does it feel in yours?” Or, “This sunscreen is slimy, isn’t it?” Asking questions like, “What color do you want to eat this morning?” or “How do your pants make you feel?” prompts your child to connect consciously with their senses, helping them become more present in their bodies as they start their day.

Final Thoughts

Contrary to popular belief, mornings with kids don’t have to be chaotic and rushed. In fact, they can become your favorite part of the day! By incorporating these mindful morning activities, you can create a peaceful and positive start to your day, setting the tone for a happier and more harmonious family life.

Embrace the opportunity to connect, practice mindfulness, enjoy nature, boost confidence with affirmations, set a cheerful mood, move your body, and engage your senses. It really only takes about 5-10 minutes to create mindful mornings with kids. And I promise, you’ll be so happy you did so.

Looking for more ways to weave mindfulness into your morning routine? Let Camille’s AM rituals inspire your own.

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Questions arise—are we simply overstimulated or over-touched, or is something deeper triggering these reactions? One time when I was at a children’s birthday party with my kids, they were so tired and not on their best behavior, and I felt my anxiety start to kick in. I grabbed the kids, made excuses about needing to pick up my husband, and ran out of there. Looking back, I was the only one who seemed to be bothered by my kids.

Nowadays, instead of succumbing to frustration, I’ve learned to approach these moments with curiosity, determined to understand the root of our parenting triggers. Ahead, we explore parenting triggers and how they manifest, discovering mindful parenting tips to navigate these challenges with compassion and hope.

Featured image from our interview with Alex Taylor by Teal Thomsen.

What are parenting triggers?

Parenting triggers are emotional reactions that arise when we encounter situations with our children that evoke unresolved emotions from our past experiences. These triggers can stem from our own childhoods, past traumas, or even cultural and societal influences. When triggered, we may respond to our children’s behavior with intense emotions or uncontrollable reactions that don’t seem proportionate to the situation.

What do parenting triggers look and feel like?

According to Dan Siegel, a psychiatrist and author of the book The Whole Brain: 12 Revolutionary Strategies To Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind, parenting triggers can manifest in various ways, both physically and emotionally. Physically, you might notice tension in your body, increased heart rate, or shallow breathing. Emotionally, triggers may evoke feelings of anger, frustration, anxiety, or sadness. You might experience a sense of overwhelm, feeling out of control or helpless.

The Most Common Parenting Triggers

Parenting triggers can vary from person to person, but there are several common ones that many parents experience. These triggers may include:

• dealing with messes and disorganization
• coping with noise and chaos
• managing disobedience or defiance from their children
• feeling upset by a perceived lack of respect or appreciation
• struggling with overwhelming exhaustion

Understanding these triggers can help parents develop effective coping strategies and maintain a healthier and more harmonious parent-child relationship. If you’re looking for a great resource on common parenting triggers, I recommend checking out the book The Awakened Family: A Revolution in Parenting by Dr. Shefali Tsabary. 

Mindful Parenting Tips When You’re Triggered

So, what do you do when you start to feel triggered? While there is no one right way to fix a triggering situation, you can find specific ones that work for you. I recommend visiting mindful.org for insightful articles and resources on mindfulness and parenting, helping parents cultivate self-awareness and mindfulness in their interactions with their children.

Here are some great exercises that I find help me when I’m feeling triggered. 

• Pause and breathe. When you feel triggered, take a moment to pause and take deep breaths. This can help you regain composure and prevent impulsive reactions.
• Identify the trigger. Reflect on the underlying emotions and past experiences that may be contributing to the trigger. Understanding the root cause can help you respond more compassionately.
• Practice self-compassion. Be kind to yourself and acknowledge that parenting is challenging. Avoid self-judgment and allow yourself to learn and grow from these experiences.
• Use “I” statements. Communicate with your children using “I” statements to express your feelings without blaming them. For example, say, “I feel overwhelmed when there’s a lot of noise.”
• Seek support. Connect with other parents or professionals who can empathize with your experiences and offer guidance and encouragement.

The Takeaway

As parents, we’ve all encountered triggers that lead to intense reactions, leaving us feeling overwhelmed and regretful. By exploring the concept of parenting triggers, understanding their manifestations, and identifying common triggers, we can gain valuable insights into our emotional responses.

Armed with mindfulness and self-compassion, we can more effectively navigate these challenging moments. Embrace the curiosity to delve into the depths of our emotions, paving the way for greater connection, growth, and understanding in our roles as parents.

Remember: the journey of mindful parenting is one of continuous learning and transformation. With each step, we find the path to a more harmonious and loving family dynamic. And if you do blow up, don’t beat yourself up! Apologizing to your kids is a great way to teach them that everyone has bad days. Still, when we take accountability and apologize sincerely, we can mend relationships, and that’s a life skill everyone needs.

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It can feel like psychological warfare from all angles. Is she not calling me as much because she’s drowning in burp cloths and Bluey reruns, or does my cluelessness about nap schedules and pre-school waitlists make me an undesirable hangout? If it’s the former, am I being a bad friend for not reaching out more? If it’s the latter, maybe I’m reaching out too much.

Featured image by Michelle Nash.

Friendship After Kids: An Expert Shares How It’s Done

That being said, maybe those differences can be a good thing. A colleague who’s a mother told me she has a standing date she’ll never miss with a group of child-free friends—it’s often the highlight of her month. And the joy I get from being the “cool aunt figure” to my new tiny friends is genuinely priceless. 

No matter how cherished the friendship, babies and kids tend to make it so that you’ll see your mom friends a little less—if only temporarily. It’s undeniably hard, but it doesn’t have to be a friendship ender.

For a little guidance on how to navigate our evolving friendships, I spoke with Dr. Melanie Ross Mills, relationship expert and author of The Friendship Bond.

Dr. Melanie Ross Mills

Dr. Melanie Ross Mills (AKA Dr. Mel) is a nationally recognized temperament therapist, relationship expert, author, and life strategist.

I imagine it can be easy to make assumptions on both sides. Someone child-free might feel they’ve been left behind. A new mom might feel their child-free friends no longer think they’re fun. How can someone deal with or fight that urge to make that assumption? 

It is only human to make these assumptions when we are feeling left out or left behind. When we have entered a new life phase as a new mom, we will experience having to adjust. It is possible that your child-free friends aren’t quite ready for you to go in at 9:00 pm to breastfeed, therefore they don’t view you as the “fun friend’ anymore. It is also possible that the child-free mom feels left out because she is not in the playgroup or able to bond over which car seats are safest. 

Acknowledge:

Recognize that there will be some changes in schedules, priorities, mindsets, and approaches to life between the child-free and the new mom friendship. This will help you both step into this new phase of life as you seek to relate to one another in new ways and make an effort to maintain the old. 

Prioritize: 

Prioritize one another. Continue to incorporate some of your old activities (fun dinners together), but also understand that there will be adjusting. Make time to be together with and without the baby—respecting one another’s desires as you make an effort to share life with one another. 

Communicate:

Communication helps curb assumptions. Share in healthy ways what you’re experiencing and how you’re feeling. Let your child-free friend know if you’re sensing she is frustrated with your inability to dance until dawn. Share with your new mom friend that you miss your alone time with her and schedule a date. 

What are some ways to foster relationships with new mom friends? How can someone without kids adapt to suit their needs? 

A child-free relationship can adapt to suit the new mom’s needs by helping out, releasing expectations, inquiring about how she can show up in her life, extending support, and communicating her own needs as well. 

On the other hand, how can a new mother ensure her friends without kids that she wants to maintain a strong friendship? 

A new mom can choose to continue to make an effort with her child-free friends, reminding them that she’s still the same person she was previously and her love for them has not changed. Schedule your own “play dates” with your friends that have not experienced motherhood—center them around what they want to do. Be sensitive and try to empathize with where they’re coming from (especially the fear of the unknown). 

What are some things to keep in mind when you’re the odd one out in a group (the one without kids, or the only one with)? What intentional actions can you take to maintain those bonds? 

I’d start with releasing the mindset that you’re the odd man out in the group. Whether you have children or you don’t, you’re friends with one another for a reason. You’ve chosen to share life together. Each of you has something to offer the whole. That is why your presence is valuable, even if you do feel like the odd man out.

Whether you have children or you don’t, you’re friends with one another for a reason. You’ve chosen to share life together.

Children do not make us “less than,” or “more than.” It’s good to remind yourself that you’re still the awesome person you were created to be, with or without children. To maintain bonds, we must make an effort. Connecting doesn’t happen in isolation. Therefore, don’t get discouraged if you have an awkward experience as these changes are taking place. Don’t give up on your child-free and new mom friends. If you want them in your life, make an effort, make plans, and make memories.

Friendships do change as we get older—when do you feel it’s time to accept that a friendship hasn’t made the transition? 

Friendships do change as we change. Some will be in your life for a lifetime while others will be seasonal. We never want to write anyone off, but we also want to be realistic if a friendship hasn’t made the transition. Most of the time, you’ll notice a disconnect between you two. This doesn’t mean your friend will never be in your life again, it just means you’re moving away for now.

It is time to accept that the friendship hasn’t made the transition when there’s no longer a reciprocation in play. Once a friend has reached out multiple times without the other responding, that’s usually a good indicator that it’s okay to open your heart and time toward other friendships. Or, you might be the one that’s not feeling prompted to reciprocate in ways that you have previously. That’s okay too. Life’s about growth and relationships teach us, expand us, challenge us, heal us, hurt us, and grow us. We want to be in reciprocated friendships—child-free and/or new mom candidates welcome.

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Now that I’m a mom myself three times over (a reality I still can’t wrap my mind around), I’m giving a pregnant pause to the concept of the holiday. Mother’s Day has me thinking of all the packed lunches, carpool pick-ups, tears dried, cheek smudges wiped away, hair tresses braided, and boo-boos bandaged. The goodnight kisses, the pages read (and re-read) and, of course, the many lullabies sung. 

Featured image from our interview with Alex Taylor by Teal Thomsen.

16 Top-Rated Mother’s Day Gifts Every Mama Will Love

I’ve also been reflecting on all the sibling fights and feuds I’ve broken up, the carpet stains I’ve scrubbed (and scrubbed, and scrubbed… ), the insistence on finishing veggies before dessert, and the negotiations over why pajamas aren’t appropriate school attire. 

And it’s made me to decide to lean all the way in this year. 

For all the moments big and small, we moms deserve a treat. Too taxed to make a list of things you’d love to open on May 14th? We’ve got you covered. Our editors shared the Mother’s Day gifts they can’t wait to share (and hope they receive). Read on for the ultimate, mom-approved gift guide—and feel free to print out this guide and casually leave it on the kitchen counter. Okay, a note might be necessary, too.

For the Mom Who Loves a Farmer’s Market Haul: Casa Zuma “Salad Ritual” Gift Bundle

I designed this gift bundle to help make our time in the kitchen a joy-sparking, soul-replenishing moment in our day. Isn’t that a gift that just about every mama would love? The Salad Ritual includes everything she needs to slow down and bring more awareness to preparing a daily salad with fresh, seasonal ingredients. And it’s perfect for shipping if your mom lives far away—the salad bowl and spoons arrive ready to gift in a beautiful box, with a limited edition recipe booklet. — Camille, Editor-in-Chief

Casa Zuma “Salad Ritual” Gift Bundle

“Salad Ritual” Gift Bundle, $144

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For the Skincare-Obsessed Mom: Osea Undaria Algae Body Oil

I wasn’t a body oil person until a family member gifted me this Osea product over the holidays. Now it’s a staple in my routine and my skin just loves it. It has a light, fresh scent and delicious velvety texture. I thought I was moisturized before, but this is the real deal! — Michelle, Executive Producer

Osea Undaria Algae Body Oil

Undaria Algae Body Oil, $84

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For the Sentimental Mom: Mod + Jo Cherub Hoops

Every mama loves Mod+Jo. Their pieces are classy, timeless, and durable for everyday wear-and-tear (hello, motherhood). These hoops are my latest obsession–a reminder that our littles aren’t little for long. — Edie, Wellness Contributor

Mod + Jo Cherub Hoops

Cherub Hoops, $56

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For the Mom With Effortless Style: Doen Aphra Top

File this under “things I’m low-key hinting for my kids to buy me.” I have a little collection of Doen tops going in my collection, and I love how they add a little romance to even the simplest of outfits. This is the top I’m *hoping* to wear on repeat this summer. — Camille, Editor-in-Chief

Doen Aphra Top

Aphra Top, $188

Shop Now

For the Coffee-Obsessed Mom: Farmhouse Pottery Gooseneck Kettle

The Stagg Electric Kettle may be getting all the love, but this matte black beauty deserves its spot in the sun. Whether she opts for coffee (or tea!), any mom will love the main character energy this kettle brings to the kitchen. — Isabelle, Managing Editor

Farmhouse Pottery Gooseneck Kettle

Gooseneck Kettle, $75

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For the Mom Who Never Forgets SPF: Janessa Leoné Milton

With summer around the corner, I’m living in hats. I’m a big Janessa Leoné hat fan and I’m really excited about this new release with the leather strap. (If you’re not into statement hats, this packable hat is perfect for travel and the mom on the go.) — Brandy, Motherhood Contributor

Janessa Leoné Milton

Milton, $370

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For the Hostess-with-the-Mostess Mom: Casa Zuma Linen Table Throw

For me, the perfect Mother’s Day gift is a slightly luxurious item that she may not buy for herself—something that gives that little jolt of delight every time she uses it. This casually cool linen table throw adds textural warmth to the table and comes in a drool-worthy array of muted shades. Ethically made in Lithuania, this square throw is the right size for any table she wants to throw it over—since it’s made to reveal the edges of what’s underneath, you can use it on square, round, and rectangular shaped-tables. — Camille, Editor-in-Chief

Casa Zuma Linen Table Throw

Linen Table Throw, $80

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For the Mom Who Loves to Lounge: Ulla Johnson Aurelie Robe

Your mama’s morning getup just got a glow-up. I’m obsessed with this patterned silk number from my fave Ulla Johnson because, well what’s not to love? Psst… Someone please send this to my husband! — Anne, Contributing Editor

Ulla Johnson Aurelie Robe

Aurelie Robe, $390

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For the Mom Who Needs to Marie Kondo: Legacybox

If your mom is holding onto piles of VHS tapes, cue the tears when you present her with digitized versions of Christmas mornings, volleyball games, and piano recitals long ago. — Brittany, Content Marketing Director

Legacybox

Legacybox, prices vary

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For the Baking-Obsessed Mom: Our Place Ovenware Set

My mom is *deeply* in her everything-must-go, self-declared-minimalist era. She’s made it clear: she only wants to hold onto what she loves and/or what improves her everyday routines. A five-piece, non-toxic stoneware baking set for under $200? It checks all the boxes. And those colors… I’m opting for lavender. — Isabelle, Managing Editor

Our Place Ovenware Set

Ovenware Set, $195

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For the Mom Whose Style Is Unmatched: Freda Salvador Eda D’Orsay Sneaker

Every spring and summer, I’m on the hunt for the perfect white leather sneaker. Like all of Fred Salvador’s shoes, the padding supplies the ultimate comfort. Bonus points: small-batch and female-founded.— Brandy, Motherhood Contributor

Freda Salvador Eda D’Orsay Sneaker

Eda D’Orsay Sneaker,

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For the Mom Who Loves Luxe Skincare: Sahara Rose Sumptuous Regenerating Cream

Because skincare is one of the most instantly transportive, indulgent, uplifting gifts to give (and receive). And if it’s a clean product from an independent female-founded company, as this gorgeous face cream is, it’s doubly inspiring and beautiful. — Stacey, Contributing Editor

Sahara Rose Sumptuous Regenerating Cream

Sumptuous Regenerating Cream, $76

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For the Mom With Timeless Style: Birkenstock Arizona Soft Footbed Sandal

These sandals sit smack right in the middle of the Venn diagram of gifts my mom, my mother-in-law, and I all want equally. A mom needs a pair of comfy slides that also make you look put together in an instant—these are them. — Brittany, Content Marketing Director

Birkenstock Arizona Soft Footbed Sandal

Arizona Soft Footbed Sandal, $140

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For the Foodie Mom: The Best Brunch in Town

The ultimate gift would be my husband getting the kids ready in aesthetically pleasing outfits, presenting me with flowers, and taking me to brunch at a beautiful outdoor patio. Followed by an afternoon to myself. — Brandy, Motherhood Contributor

The Best Brunch Restaurants in Austin

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For the Mom Who Knows the Beauty of Basics: Z Supply Kaili Button-Up Gauze Top

Hot mom uniform, school drop-off uniform, lounging on a Sunday uniform, etc.—this top will delight your favorite mama. She’ll never want to take it off. (It me). — Edie, Wellness Contributor

Z Supply Kaili Button-Up Gauze Top

Kaili Button-Up Gauze Top, $79

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For the Statement-Making Mom: Chan Luu White Pearl and Gold Diamond Cuff

My mom’s a minimalist—but that doesn’t mean she doesn’t like to make a statement. She’s been collecting Chan Luu’s timeless wrap bracelets for years. But this Mother’s Day, I’m going to change it up with this sleek cuff featuring a champagne diamond and white freshwater pearl. — Isabelle, Managing Editor

Chan Luu White Pearl and Gold Diamond Cuff

White Pearl and Gold Diamond Cuff, $155

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Magazine Subscriptions

Moms love a magazine. It’s a bit of happy mail from days of old and a gift that lasts all year. Cater to her interests with a subscription to Bon Appétit for foodies, Magnolia Journal for Jo lovers, or a number of classics like Real Simple, BHG, (and, yes, People). — Brittany, Content Marketing Director

Magazine Subscriptions

Magazine Subscriptions, prices vary

The post 16 Mother’s Day Gifts Our Editors Are Giving (And Hoping to Receive) This Year appeared first on Camille Styles.

Now that I’m a mom myself three times over (a reality I still can’t wrap my mind around), I’m giving a pregnant pause to the concept of the holiday. Mother’s Day has me thinking of all the packed lunches, carpool pick-ups, tears dried, cheek smudges wiped away, hair tresses braided, and boo-boos bandaged. The goodnight kisses, the pages read (and re-read) and, of course, the many lullabies sung. 

Featured image from our interview with Alex Taylor by Teal Thomsen.

16 Top-Rated Mother’s Day Gifts Every Mama Will Love

I’ve also been reflecting on all the sibling fights and feuds I’ve broken up, the carpet stains I’ve scrubbed (and scrubbed, and scrubbed… ), the insistence on finishing veggies before dessert, and the negotiations over why pajamas aren’t appropriate school attire. 

And it’s made me to decide to lean all the way in this year. 

For all the moments big and small, we moms deserve a treat. Too taxed to make a list of things you’d love to open on May 14th? We’ve got you covered. Our editors shared the Mother’s Day gifts they can’t wait to share (and hope they receive). Read on for the ultimate, mom-approved gift guide—and feel free to print out this guide and casually leave it on the kitchen counter. Okay, a note might be necessary, too.

For the Mom Who Loves a Farmer’s Market Haul: Casa Zuma “Salad Ritual” Gift Bundle

I designed this gift bundle to help make our time in the kitchen a joy-sparking, soul-replenishing moment in our day. Isn’t that a gift that just about every mama would love? The Salad Ritual includes everything she needs to slow down and bring more awareness to preparing a daily salad with fresh, seasonal ingredients. And it’s perfect for shipping if your mom lives far away—the salad bowl and spoons arrive ready to gift in a beautiful box, with a limited edition recipe booklet. — Camille, Editor-in-Chief

Casa Zuma “Salad Ritual” Gift Bundle

“Salad Ritual” Gift Bundle, $144

Shop Now

For the Skincare-Obsessed Mom: Osea Undaria Algae Body Oil

I wasn’t a body oil person until a family member gifted me this Osea product over the holidays. Now it’s a staple in my routine and my skin just loves it. It has a light, fresh scent and delicious velvety texture. I thought I was moisturized before, but this is the real deal! — Michelle, Executive Producer

Osea Undaria Algae Body Oil

Undaria Algae Body Oil, $84

Shop Now

For the Sentimental Mom: Mod + Jo Cherub Hoops

Every mama loves Mod+Jo. Their pieces are classy, timeless, and durable for everyday wear-and-tear (hello, motherhood). These hoops are my latest obsession–a reminder that our littles aren’t little for long. — Edie, Wellness Contributor

Mod + Jo Cherub Hoops

Cherub Hoops, $56

Shop Now

For the Mom With Effortless Style: Doen Aphra Top

File this under “things I’m low-key hinting for my kids to buy me.” I have a little collection of Doen tops going in my collection, and I love how they add a little romance to even the simplest of outfits. This is the top I’m *hoping* to wear on repeat this summer. — Camille, Editor-in-Chief

Doen Aphra Top

Aphra Top, $188

Shop Now

For the Coffee-Obsessed Mom: Farmhouse Pottery Gooseneck Kettle

The Stagg Electric Kettle may be getting all the love, but this matte black beauty deserves its spot in the sun. Whether she opts for coffee (or tea!), any mom will love the main character energy this kettle brings to the kitchen. — Isabelle, Managing Editor

Farmhouse Pottery Gooseneck Kettle

Gooseneck Kettle, $75

Shop Now

For the Mom Who Never Forgets SPF: Janessa Leoné Milton

With summer around the corner, I’m living in hats. I’m a big Janessa Leoné hat fan and I’m really excited about this new release with the leather strap. (If you’re not into statement hats, this packable hat is perfect for travel and the mom on the go.) — Brandy, Motherhood Contributor

Janessa Leoné Milton

Milton, $370

Shop Now

For the Hostess-with-the-Mostess Mom: Casa Zuma Linen Table Throw

For me, the perfect Mother’s Day gift is a slightly luxurious item that she may not buy for herself—something that gives that little jolt of delight every time she uses it. This casually cool linen table throw adds textural warmth to the table and comes in a drool-worthy array of muted shades. Ethically made in Lithuania, this square throw is the right size for any table she wants to throw it over—since it’s made to reveal the edges of what’s underneath, you can use it on square, round, and rectangular shaped-tables. — Camille, Editor-in-Chief

Casa Zuma Linen Table Throw

Linen Table Throw, $80

Shop Now

For the Mom Who Loves to Lounge: Ulla Johnson Aurelie Robe

Your mama’s morning getup just got a glow-up. I’m obsessed with this patterned silk number from my fave Ulla Johnson because, well what’s not to love? Psst… Someone please send this to my husband! — Anne, Contributing Editor

Ulla Johnson Aurelie Robe

Aurelie Robe, $390

Shop Now

For the Mom Who Needs to Marie Kondo: Legacybox

If your mom is holding onto piles of VHS tapes, cue the tears when you present her with digitized versions of Christmas mornings, volleyball games, and piano recitals long ago. — Brittany, Content Marketing Director

Legacybox

Legacybox, prices vary

Shop Now

For the Baking-Obsessed Mom: Our Place Ovenware Set

My mom is *deeply* in her everything-must-go, self-declared-minimalist era. She’s made it clear: she only wants to hold onto what she loves and/or what improves her everyday routines. A five-piece, non-toxic stoneware baking set for under $200? It checks all the boxes. And those colors… I’m opting for lavender. — Isabelle, Managing Editor

Our Place Ovenware Set

Ovenware Set, $195

Shop Now

For the Mom Whose Style Is Unmatched: Freda Salvador Eda D’Orsay Sneaker

Every spring and summer, I’m on the hunt for the perfect white leather sneaker. Like all of Fred Salvador’s shoes, the padding supplies the ultimate comfort. Bonus points: small-batch and female-founded.— Brandy, Motherhood Contributor

Freda Salvador Eda D’Orsay Sneaker

Eda D’Orsay Sneaker,

Shop Now

For the Mom Who Loves Luxe Skincare: Sahara Rose Sumptuous Regenerating Cream

Because skincare is one of the most instantly transportive, indulgent, uplifting gifts to give (and receive). And if it’s a clean product from an independent female-founded company, as this gorgeous face cream is, it’s doubly inspiring and beautiful. — Stacey, Contributing Editor

Sahara Rose Sumptuous Regenerating Cream

Sumptuous Regenerating Cream, $76

Shop Now

For the Mom With Timeless Style: Birkenstock Arizona Soft Footbed Sandal

These sandals sit smack right in the middle of the Venn diagram of gifts my mom, my mother-in-law, and I all want equally. A mom needs a pair of comfy slides that also make you look put together in an instant—these are them. — Brittany, Content Marketing Director

Birkenstock Arizona Soft Footbed Sandal

Arizona Soft Footbed Sandal, $140

Shop Now

For the Foodie Mom: The Best Brunch in Town

The ultimate gift would be my husband getting the kids ready in aesthetically pleasing outfits, presenting me with flowers, and taking me to brunch at a beautiful outdoor patio. Followed by an afternoon to myself. — Brandy, Motherhood Contributor

The Best Brunch Restaurants in Austin

Shop Now

For the Mom Who Knows the Beauty of Basics: Z Supply Kaili Button-Up Gauze Top

Hot mom uniform, school drop-off uniform, lounging on a Sunday uniform, etc.—this top will delight your favorite mama. She’ll never want to take it off. (It me). — Edie, Wellness Contributor

Z Supply Kaili Button-Up Gauze Top

Kaili Button-Up Gauze Top, $79

Shop Now

For the Statement-Making Mom: Chan Luu White Pearl and Gold Diamond Cuff

My mom’s a minimalist—but that doesn’t mean she doesn’t like to make a statement. She’s been collecting Chan Luu’s timeless wrap bracelets for years. But this Mother’s Day, I’m going to change it up with this sleek cuff featuring a champagne diamond and white freshwater pearl. — Isabelle, Managing Editor

Chan Luu White Pearl and Gold Diamond Cuff

White Pearl and Gold Diamond Cuff, $155

Shop Now

Magazine Subscriptions

Moms love a magazine. It’s a bit of happy mail from days of old and a gift that lasts all year. Cater to her interests with a subscription to Bon Appétit for foodies, Magnolia Journal for Jo lovers, or a number of classics like Real Simple, BHG, (and, yes, People). — Brittany, Content Marketing Director

Magazine Subscriptions

Magazine Subscriptions, prices vary

The post 16 Mother’s Day Gifts Our Editors Are Giving (And Hoping to Receive) in 2023 appeared first on Camille Styles.

Featured image by Hannah Haston.

The Best Easter Gifts for Kids

Of course, you don’t have to spend loads of money and shower your kids with 20 gifts every time a holiday rolls around. Oftentimes, a carefully chosen gift or DIY activity together is just as sweet.

So if you’re on the hunt for something special (that will bring joy beyond one day) then keep reading for the perfect Easter gifts for kids that will delight your littles and make celebrating spring easy. And to simplify your shopping, we’ve divided our picks into age-appropriate gifts. Happy shopping, Easter bunny!

Ages 0-2

Slumberkins Blueberry Sloth Snuggler

Designed to support emotional growth, this stuffed animal and book set goes way beyond cute. As someone who’s gifted many a Slumberkin to nieces and nephews, believe me when I say: these are beyond soft. And the interactive story, “Let’s Go! With Sloth” encourages connection and play. While the snuggler is intended for ages 0-2, if you have older littles, selecting the “kin” option is your best choice.

What’s great:

• The softest stuffed animal/lovey we’ve ever snuggled (seriously)
• Machine washable
• Book and affirmation card were written by therapists and educators

Slumberkins Blueberry Sloth Snuggler

Blueberry Sloth Snuggler, $49

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Colored Organics Organic Lovey Bunny

Meet your little one’s new best friend. This lovey is made of 100% organic cotton—meaning soft snuggles for months to come. We also love that it’s intentionally designed with non-toxic, sustainable materials, so even infants with sensitive skin can get cozy.

Colored Organics Organic Lovey Bunny

Organic Lovey Bunny, $34

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MiniOlie Baby Carrot Plush Hooded Romper

They’ll love cuddling up in this cute and perfect-for-spring romper. Be sure to take lots of pictures.

What’s great:

• Comes in five different sizes

What’s not:

• Size 3-6M is currently out of stock; as is the Brick Red colorway
• Made of 100% polyester—we would have preferred a more sustainable, softer fabric

MiniOlie Baby Carrot Plush Hooded Romper

Baby Carrot Plush Hooded Romper, $46.95

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Pottery Barn Kids Organic Jack Muslin Drool Bib Set

Functional and fun, this bib set is soft and durable (key)—meaning each bib can absorb even the drippiest messes.

What’s great:

• Made of 100% organic cotton muslin
• Machine washable
• Fair-trade and fast-absorbing

Pottery Barn Kids Organic Jack Muslin Drool Bib Set

Organic Jack Muslin Drool Bib Set, $35

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Jellystone Rainbow Stacking Toy

The best toys are well-loved and easy to clean up. This minimalist stacking rainbow checks all the boxes.

What’s great:

• Dishwasher and freezer safe
• Encourages hand-eye coordination
• Can be used for teething

Jellystone Rainbow Stacking Toy

Rainbow Stacking Toy, $25

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Mudpuppy Garden Bunnies 25 Piece Floor Puzzle

With only 25 pieces, this floor puzzle will entertain and challenge children ages two and up. Bonus: you’ll love their cute, vibrant, and perfect-for-Easter masterpiece.

What’s great:

• Oversized pieces are perfect for small hands
• Perfect for individual or group play

Mudpuppy Garden Bunnies 25 Piece Floor Puzzle

Garden Bunnies 25 Piece Floor Puzzle, $16.99

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Ages 3-5

Mermaid Dreams by Kate Pugsley

One of the many wonderful things about children’s books is that they’re endlessly entertaining for little ones—and totally compelling for adults. Featuring beautiful illustrations by Kate Pugsley, Mermaid Dreams takes young readers on an imaginative, underwater adventure.

What’s great:

• Comes in board book or hardcover format
• A beautiful book to display on your coffee table

Mermaid Dreams by Kate Pugsley

Mermaid Dreams, $8.99

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Lovevery The Block Set

Helmed by a team of child development experts, Lovevery designs toys that engage children in intentional play. What exactly does that look like? Thoughtfully made “play kits” that teach children spatial, language, and problem-solving skills. I won’t lie… I’d love to find this in my basket on Easter morning.

What’s great:

• Designed by child development experts
• Accompanying activity guide includes 20+ learning games

Lovevery The Block Set

The Block Set, $90

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L.L. Bean Toddlers’ Animal Paws Slippers

While these slippers are Easter-appropriate for obvious reasons, they’re guaranteed to be worn year-round. Comfy, cozy, and oh-so-cute, your little bunnies will be obsessed.

What’s great:

• No-slip tread keeps toddlers upright
• Machine washable for easy cleaning

L.L. Bean Toddlers’ Animal Paws Slippers

Toddlers’ Animal Paws Slippers, $29.95

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Peking Handicraft Oh Joy Pillow

For when the Easter candy isn’t enough, this cheeky pillow is sure to satisfy their sweet tooth. The fun print is the perfect way to brighten up any toddler’s room.

What’s great:

• Designed by Joy Cho, a Camille Styles fan-favorite
• Fine embroidery adds a thoughtful touch of character

What’s not:

• Pillow is spot clean only—not ideal for toddler messes and sticky hands

Peking Handicraft Oh Joy Pillow

Oh Joy Pillow, $39.81

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Babiators The Daisy Sunglasses

These sunglasses are one of the many children’s accessories we wish would come in adult sizes. (Seriously, we’d be rocking these all the time!) Not only will your kiddo be styling, but their eyes will be protected thanks to the UV400 lenses that offer 100% UVA and UVB protection.

What’s great:

• Sunglasses are 100% kid-proof, i.e., they feature flexible rubber frames and shatter-resistant lenses
• If you lose or break your sunglasses in the first year, you can receive a replacement pair for free

Babiators The Daisy Sunglasses

The Daisy Sunglasses, $36

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Poppy’s House by Karla Courtney

Sweet and sentimental, Poppy’s House tells the story of a little girl’s adventures with her “Poppy.” Together, they garden, explore, and share a love of a simple way of life. It’s a beautiful reflection of the bonds that tie us together—no matter our age.

What’s great:

• Beautifully illustrated pages engage both children and adults
• The book is based on the author’s own visits to her Poppy’s house in Arnold’s Cove, Newfoundland

Poppy’s House by Karla Courtney

Poppy’s House, $17.39

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Ages 6-8

Gamewright Rat-A-Tat-Cat

Just because a game is intended for children doesn’t mean adults won’t quickly become obsessed. My parents purchased this game for me and my sisters when we were 6, 7, and 9. Twenty years later, we still play whenever the whole fam gets together. It’s easy to learn—meaning that you’ll probably spend five minutes reviewing the instructions and hours longer playing round after round.

What’s great:

• Appropriate for two-player games or up to six players
• Helps young children learn basic mathematical concepts
• Designed for ages 6 and up

Gamewright Rat-A-Tat-Cat

Rat-A-Tat-Cat, $10.99

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A Kids Book About Boredom by Kyle Steed

As children become more and more connected to technology, the beauty of boredom is an increasingly important topic to discuss. Written by artist Kyle steed, A Kids Book About Boredom explores the many ways boredom can be one of the most inspiring and powerful tools in our creative toolbox.

What’s great:

• Colorful and vibrant illustrations capture children’s attention and effectively break down topics
• Positive and affirming language encourages children to reach their full potential

A Kids Book About Boredom by Kyle Steed

A Kids Book About Boredom, $19.95

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Meri Meri Spring Bunny Egg Decorating Tattoo Kit

Add this tattoo kit to the list of things currently in my cart. (I’m gifting sets to just about everyone I know.) While I’ve always loved the concept of egg decorating, in practice, it can be difficult to end up with a final product that matches the tutorial. With these egg-decorating tattoos, kids will have fun selecting from bunnies, carrots, flowers, birds, and bees to easily create beautifully-decorated eggs.

What’s great:

• Includes 27 tattoos with nine spring designs
• An easy activity for kids ages 3+

Meri Meri Spring Bunny Egg Decorating Tattoo Kit

Spring Bunny Egg Decorating Tattoo Kit, $12 (reg. $15)

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Ages 9-11

OMY Crazy Museum Giant Coloring Poster

I discovered OMY when I was living in Paris and though I was a student with an au pair’s salary, I happily invested my hard-earned dollars buying every last one of the company’s I-could-do-this-for-hours coloring activities. Kids can spread this imaginatively illustrated poster on the table or down on the floor for a full day’s worth of coloring perfect for a rainy spring day. (Psst… the brand’s ultra-washable markers are a perfect companion present.)

What’s great:

• 27″ x 39″ poster encourages hours of imaginative exploration and play
• Easy to frame and hang up to display once complete

Crazy Museum Giant Coloring Poster

Crazy Museum Giant Coloring Poster, $18.50

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KiwiCo Acrylic Paint Marker Set

As a kid, there was nothing better than opening up a new set of markers. (Okay, that still holds true today.) And while you’re welcome to purchase watercolor markers, paper markers, wood markers—the list goes on—the good news is that these water-based acrylic paint markers work on any surface. Just be sure to remind them that the living room furniture is off-limits.

What’s great:

• Acrylic paint markers work on any surface
• Visit www.kiwico.com/diy for project ideas and inspiration
• Color stays vibrant longer than other brands

KiwiCo Acrylic Paint Marker Set

Acrylic Paint Marker Set, $9.95 (reg. $16.95)

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The HappyMe Daily Gratitude Journal

IYKY—gratitude journaling is one of the best things we can do for our wellness. Kids, included! While the concept of writing about what we’re thankful for may seem like more of an adult topic, it’s an easy habit for children to build. The HappyMe Daily Gratitude Journal breaks it down into accessible steps, encouraging children with age-appropriate prompts, space to draw, and room to explore their gratitudes deeper.

What’s great:

• Expertly designed to foster a growth mindset by increasing confidence, self-awareness and self-belief
• Accessible writing and drawing prompts encourage mindfulness and provide an alternative to screen time

The HappyMe Daily Gratitude Journal

Daily Gratitude Journal, $31.90

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Nailmatic Kid’s Wash-Off Nail Polish Set

Nail painting is a fun way to encourage your child to explore self-expression. And because the polish was formulated with kids in mind, it comes off easy after a quick rinse-off under warm, soapy water.

What’s great:

• Water-based polish means all the fun, minus the mess
• Formulated without artificial fragrances, parabens, phthalates, or sulfates

Nailmatic Kid’s Wash-Off Nail Polish Set

Wash-Off Nail Polish Set, $34

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The Woobles Egg-cellent Accessory Bundle

Fiber arts are a fun and fulfilling hobby for older kids. This beginner-friendly bundle includes everything they need to get started: from yarn to needles to easy-to-follow video instructions.

What’s great:

• Accompanying step-by-step video tutorials support easy learning
• Beginner kits come pre-started to help new crocheters along
• Comes with five individual project kits—including an easter egg shell, a carrot and basket, and a bunny headband

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Egg-cellent Accessory Bundle, $20 (reg. $27)

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Tubby Todd Kids Gift Set

If you’re interested in helping your child begin their skincare journey, there’s no better place to start than with this gentle, easy-to-use set. Designed with the intention to help children feel confident in how they care for themselves, this set encourages tweens to begin building daily rituals that support them in their day-to-day lives. The five-piece gift set includes the brand’s Suds Stick, Best Face Wash, Kids Toothpaste, Deo Stick, and (S)Undercover SPF serum.

What’s great:

• Gentle ingredients work with sensitive skin
• Select from scented or fragrance-free sets
• Gluten-free, dairy-free, and certified animal cruelty-free

Tubby Todd Kids Gift Set

Kids Gift Set, $86

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Roomytown Rather Be Reading Fine Art Print

If you have a reader in the house (who also just happens to swoon over cats), they’ll love showing off this quirky print in their room.

What’s great:

• Select from print only or framed options
• Printed on museum-quality paper
• Comes in five different sizes to fit their bedroom or reading nook perfectly

Roomytown Rather Be Reading Fine Art Print

Rather Be Reading Fine Art Print, $25

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PB Teen Cozy Sherpa Robe

While things may be getting warmer outside, there’s still nothing better than slipping into a cozy and plush robe to ease your way out of bed. And as we all know, teens and pre-teens can use all the help they can get when it comes to waking up. This soft Sherpa robe is the perfect little luxe gift.

What’s great:

• Comes in six colors
• Made entirely from recycled materials
• Features two pockets

What’s not:

• Robe is sized X-Small/Small and Medium/Large. Due to imprecise sizing, we recommend sizing up to ensure a cozy fit.

PB Teen Cozy Sherpa Robe

Cozy Sherpa Robe, $59

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BAGGU Standard Baggu (Set of 3)

The OG reusable bag! There are endless reasons your tween could use one of BAGGU’s famous, bright, and cheery prints. An extra bag for sports equipment? Check. Something to load their overdue library books into? Check. A statement piece that’ll help them define their personal style? Check.

What’s great:

• Totes come in a reusable drawstring pouch for easy storage
• Tote sets come in four different colorways (including “Sunshine Fruit”—so cute!)
• Each tote can carry up to 50 pounds

BAGGU Standard Baggu (Set of 3)

Standard Baggu (Set of 3), $42

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W&P Sip Sustainably Bundle

Let your tween sip sustainably and in style with this water bottle and travel mug set. The duo’s matte silicone sleeves make for easy, soft handling. And the terrazzo print? Totally on trend.

What’s great:

• Microwave and dishwasher safe
• Comes in 8 colors and prints

Wu0026P Sip Sustainably Bundle

Sip Sustainably Bundle, $50 (reg. $60)

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Girlfriend Collective Please Recycle Quarter Crew Sock

It’s a truth universally acknowledged that there is no such thing as too many socks. And when you find comfy crew socks in a range of vibrant hues? Stock up, stat.

What’s great:

• Made from 90% recycled plastic bottles
• Socks are recyclable through the brand’s ReGirlfriend program

Girlfriend Collective Please Recycle Quarter Crew Sock

Please Recycle Quarter Crew Sock, $14

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Clare V. Baseball Hat

If you haven’t heard, baseball hats are the newest it accessory (just ask Camille!). This bright and cheeky hat will be their favorite thing to wear all spring and summer long.

What’s great:

• Metal closure creates the perfect fit
• Made in L.A. by a woman-owned brand

Clare V. Baseball Hat

Baseball Hat, $49

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Galison Liberty Floral Playing Card Set

Everyone could use a deck or two of playing cards. With these dual sets, your pre-teen can play all of their favorite games in style.

What we love:

• Two decks feature beautiful Liberty London floral prints
• Storage box is stunning enough to proudly display anywhere in their room or in the house

Galison Liberty Floral Playing Card Set

Liberty Floral Playing Card Set, $16.99

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7 Days of Mindfulness By Jessica Poundstone Puzzle Set

This set of seven, 70-piece puzzles is a great way to encourage your older child to practice mindfulness through a fun and gratifying activity. Designed by Portland-based visual artist Jessica Poundstone, puzzles are intended to be completed each day of the week, helping children feel a sense of accomplishment no matter where the day takes them. This puzzle set is inspiring proof that it’s never too early to begin practicing self-care.

What’s great:

• 70-piece mini puzzles can be done in a single sitting
• Beautifully designed puzzles can double as wall art once finished

7 Days of Mindfulness By Jessica Poundstone Puzzle Set

7 Days of Mindfulness Puzzle Set, $19.99

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The first iteration of the phone was simply the thing that my entire family shared that occasionally rang when a family member called. It hung on the wall and we used it to order pizza, call the weather channel, or find out which movies were playing. (Insert deep voiceover: “welcome to movie phone!”)

Once high school hit, the magical device was the thing attached to the cord that you used to twist around and around while talking for hours on end to your crush. Remember this fun game: “No you hang up first! No, YOU hang up first!” Sigh. Swoon. The nostalgia is real, and it’s an arguably more innocent relationship to The Phone than my kids will ever be able to have in their tech-dominant world.

When Should Kids Get Phones? An Expert Weighs In

Nowadays, our phones are basically an extension of ourselves. Never out of sight, barely out of our hands. You can be reached anytime, anyplace, anywhere. It almost makes you miss the sound of the busy signal. 

With the subject of phones now being discussed with growing frequency in our home, I’m trying to navigate the best way to appropriately keep my kids connected when there isn’t a healthy landline’s distance to be found. 

There are a million questions running through my mind on this topic at any given moment. What’s the best tracking app for my teenager’s iPhone? When should my fifth grader get one herself and what rules should I enforce? And how can I get a jumpstart on restrictions now with my first grader that I can adhere to as the iPhone brigade parades into our home?

Because it’s far more than just a handy little object to connect with a friend. Our phones allow a whole new world of constant communication, contact, content, and access. Press 1 if you’re freaking out. 

With zero clue where to start, I connected with Brooke Shannon of Wait Until 8th, an online platform that encourages parents to delay (wait till 8th!) getting a smartphone for their kids. Brooke helped me understand the different stages of adolescence when it comes to tech. Bookmark this one, caretakers, teachers, parents, and grandparents—it’s an interview worth revisiting. 

Brooke Shannon

Brooke Shannon is the Executive Director and founder of Wait Until 8th. She lives in Austin with her husband Michael and three daughters. Brooke has a Master’s in Integrated Marketing Communications from Northwestern University and B.A. in Political Science and Communications from the University of Miami.

Tips for Kids 

Treat smartphones like tools, not toys

When your kids are little, it is easy to give your little one your phone to watch YouTube or play a game to buy time while you wait at the restaurant or at the dentist. Resist this temptation. This teaches them the phone is fun and can eliminate boredom.

Always carry a book with you

With a book by your side, your default mode will be reading, not scrolling social media or cramming a few emails when you have a couple of minutes. Your kids will pick up on this habit modeled to them in the early years. Encourage your children to keep a book with them as well. Stash a few books in the car so your family always has a book to grab. My girls also love magazines. Check out the Week Junior for a kid friendly weekly news publication or Highlights for elementary kiddos. My middle schoolers also love cooking magazines and Real Simple. What a difference it will make to encourage your children to read instead of consuming mindless entertainment on a smartphone or tablet!

Make all meals device-free

Gathering around the family dinner table or at your crew’s favorite restaurant is an important time to reconnect and be together as a family. Devices distract from rich conversations. Research shows that the presence of a smartphone can lessen the quality of an in-person conversation. Protect all mealtimes from the intrusion of devices. Make it a family practice to unplug for breakfast, lunch, and dinner at home or dining out.

Choose shared screen time instead of individual screen time

With our homes overflowing with TVs, tablets, and phones, it’s tempting to let each kid choose their own entertainment. Yet, it is important for children to share experiences with their families. It’s good for them to compromise when picking out a movie, show, or video game. Designate a weekly family movie night for the family to enjoy screen time together. 

Delay! Delay! Delay!

Preschool kiddos and elementary school children do not need smartwatches or smartphones. This is a time for them to play outside, read, and spend quality time with family and friends. This also is an important time for children to learn interpersonal skills like listening, interpreting nonverbal communication, eye contact, and effective speaking. Smartphones are a huge distraction to the development of these skills.

This is a time for them to play outside, read, and spend quality time with family and friends.

Rally some other friends to join you in delaying the smartphone with the Wait Until 8^th pledge. There is strength in numbers and your kid won’t be the “only one” if you encourage other families to delay, too.

Tips for Tweens

If your tween wants to text, try a tablet first

Once you have a middle schooler, you quicky learn how much kids connect outside of school via texting. If you want a way for your child to connect with their peers during middle school, we prefer texting and FaceTime on a tablet that stays in your kitchen/family room only versus a smartphone. Please note we do not recommend starting this until middle school. Elementary kids need to learn key in-person communication first and need lots of time playing and exploring!

The benefit of the iPad over a phone is that it stays at the house under your supervision instead of constantly with your child like a phone is. The same instructions for stripping down a phone will apply to the iPad (remove access to the internet browser and App Store). Essentially, make this device a communication device for texting and FaceTiming. Teach your child how to text before you grant this privilege on the iPad or a basic phone. Monitor your child’s texts. They are not allowed privacy at this stage in the training game—they need coaching.

If you need to get in touch, consider a basic phone

We encourage parents to delay all phones through elementary school and most of middle school. They learn so much not tethered to a device. They learn how to interact with people face to face, how to be present, speak up, listen, problem-solve, and manage situations without a constant tether to mom, dad, and friends.

There are situations where it is convenient for our kids to have a phones to reach them. But for us, the conveniences are not worth it. For parents who want or need a communication device for their middle schooler, we encourage them to start with a basic phone like Gabb, Light phone, Wisephone, Bark, or Pinwheel instead of a smartphone. All of these phones are very basic and do not have access to the App Store, games, internet browser, and social media. A basic phone is a thousand times better than starting with a smartphone. We believe most middle schoolers thrive, grow, and learn better without a phone.

Make car time conversation time

We spend a good amount of time together as a family shuttling to and from school and activities. These short trips can be avenues for great conversations as a family or an opportunity for kids to catch up with friends on your carpool turn. Guard this conversation space fiercely by making your car a phone-free zone for all riders. Sometimes this entails gently reminding your kids and their friends that phones should be put away in your car. In our car, we have signs posted in the car that say “no phone zone.” Some kids laugh at them or do a slight eye roll, but for the most part they respect the family rule. Protect your family’s space from smartphone evasion!

If your tween is curious about a viral trend, look it up together

If every kid at school is talking about a funny dance on TikTok or a hilarious video on YouTube, take the time to check it out together. This gives your child the opportunity to be in the know of popular trends without having to have a social media account. Plus, by looking it up together you can talk about it as a family.

Say “not yet” to all social media in middle school

This is absolutely the WORST time for kids to be on a platform where they constantly are told they are not enough. I know your kids will beg and say, “every kid has BeReal or anyone who is anyone is on Instagram or kids ONLY communicate on Snapchat.” Parents, do not CAVE! Keep your middle schoolers off social media. They are not ready.

Tips for Teens

Start slowly with the smartphone

Never hand over a fully-loaded smartphone as a first phone for a child. Remove the access to the App Store and to the internet browser through parental controls on the phone. Your child does not need unfettered access to the internet. If research is required for schoolwork, encourage the child to use a family computer, tablet, or school device. In most scenarios though, children are on the internet on a smartphone for entertainment purposes. Take this boredom eliminator away. Also, do not allow games or social media at first. Keep it simple! Texting, calling, photo taking, and listening to books and music.

Nix notifications on your teen’s phone

Phones call for our attention. Every day, we are bombarded by a constant stream of dings, flashes, and red badges screaming for our attention and pulling us away from our family and friends. Turn down the digital noise by going to Settings on your child’s phone. Then click “notifications” and turn off the badges, banners, and notifications for everything except for calls and texting.

When it comes to social media, proceed with caution

I suggest delaying social media until at least 16. At some point after that and before high school graduation, you may want to instruct them how to use social media moderately and safely. Try one platform first before allowing multiple social media accounts. Set time restrictions on the social media apps. Limit to 10-15 minutes a day. Be sure to follow their accounts and check in with what they are doing and what accounts they are following.

Keep phones out of the bedrooms at night

Period. No excuses here. Every expert from pediatricians to internet safety gurus to child psychologists agree that phones do not belong in the bedroom at night. Our devices should go to bed long before we do. Downtime before sleep time is huge! A few tips:

• Create a curfew for the device to check in with you. Ideally, this will be at least one hour before the lights are out.
• Establish a curfew on the device through parental controls.
• Get an old-school alarm clock for each of your kids.
• Talk to your kids about the importance of sleep and the crucial role it plays in physical and mental health. Sleep makes a big difference on the academic front, too.

Don’t be afraid to change your mind

Are you cringing every time you think about your kid on Snapchat, Instagram, or TikTok? Do you wish you could put the social media genie back in the bottle? We hear from so many moms and dads who regret saying yes to social media for their kids. They worry about how much time they are spending on it and losing sleep over what their children have been exposed to on social media. There are concerns about how the constant feed of perfection is making their kids feel inadequate. I am here to tell you that you can pause it all.

Take a Social Media Break as a Family

You can tell your kids you want your family to take a break from social media. Maybe the pause is a reset for a week, a month, six months, or longer. You are in charge, so don’t be afraid to change your mind. During the social media break, see what you observe in your kids. Do they seem calmer, happier, or less stressed?

A few more child phone tips to help your entire family develop a healthier relationship with their technology:

• Consider watching The Social Dilemma together during this reset.
• Read articles about how addictive social media can be.
• Ask your children what they think a healthy relationship with social media should look like and help them understand your concerns.

Who knows, your family may decide after taking a break from social media that it should really be a breakup.

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Chill time at home is far less glitzy and exciting than festive outdoor activities and parties with friends and family, so it’s an easy one to forget about… until it’s not. Before I had kids, having a few days of downtime sounded like an absolute dream. Hanging out in my pajamas on the couch with a cup of tea watching my favorite show in silence? Sign me up! But, when you have kids, this dreamy scenario can quickly turn into a bit of a nightmare. 

How to Keep Kids Occupied During the Holiday Vacation

Have you ever experienced that multi-day stretch with bored kids at home? It can be a lot! But having activities planned for family time (aka, the kids) during the holidays can save you the mental stress of trying to improvise daily to keep your kids entertained. 

Over the years, I’ve learned my lesson. Instead of repeating the chaos every year, I’ve come up with some tried-and-true activities that my kids (and my husband!) love that won’t break the bank. Keep reading for my go-to things to do with your family during the holiday time off. 

11 Things to Do With Your Family During the Holidays

1. Get dressed up and have high tea 

I’ll admit, I don’t know who loves playing dress up more—me or the kids. Maybe it’s the former stylist in me that can’t resist a good costume moment, but one of my favorite at-home activities is to get dressed and have a tea party at home. The best part about this is you don’t need to go to Spirit Halloween two months in advance to get perfect costumes. Just use what’s around the house! You’ll be surprised what some toilet paper and cardboard can do with a bit of imagination. 

2. Give back with your family

Take the time to show your kids the true meaning of the season by getting involved with a community project. Whether it’s attending a small fundraiser or participating in community service, it’s a great way to help those in need. Not only is this an affordable and engaging outing, but it’s also a meaningful lesson to teach early on.

3. Turn random acts of kindness into a game 

The world could use more random acts of kindness, especially during the holiday season. Make it a game with your kids to see who can do the kindest things in one day and then tally up the points at the end. Of course, everyone wins when you’re being nice to others.

4. See a musical or music in the park 

There are almost always community events happening around the holidays. Check your local news listings to see if there is a community theatre, parades, or live bands playing at an all-ages venue.

5. Have a family bake day

Look up an easy, festive recipe and make baking the theme of the day. Similar to dress-up, it’s fun to put on aprons and DIY chef hats to make some festive treats. Consult this list of the best holiday cookies to celebrate the season.

6. Make room for new gifts

This is one of my favorites because I’ll admit, it’s a bit sneaky. Tell your kids that to make room for new gifts, they have to purge some things they no longer need. Suddenly, you’re having a family clean-up day and they won’t even know it.

7. Go on a nature walk 

Taking time to go outside in nature should never be underestimated. It’s free and so good for the soul. If it’s not really your kids’ vibe, try turning it into a scavenger hunt to keep things fun and engaging. 

8. Turn your living room into a spa

Massage night anyone? Transform your space into a family-friendly spa and take turns giving each other foot rubs. An engaging activity that makes kids smile and you get to carve out some self-care? Win-win for mommy.

9. Go to your local library for story time 

Just like musicals and theatre in the park, there’s often story time happening at your local library. This is a great way to get out of the house and take a break from screen time for some good old wholesome fun.

10. Hit up a museum 

Show your kids some culture by taking them to a museum. While this may be “boring” for some kids, I suggest turning it into an activity by telling them to pick their favorite piece of art and recreate it at home! 

11. Send letters to loved ones

‘Tis the season for love and family! Spend a day writing down your favorite memories or messages of love to friends and family and go together to drop them off in the mailbox. The most feel-good activity of all. 

What are some of your favorite at-home holiday activities? I’d love to add more to my list! Comment below and I’ll be sure to incorporate them into my time off this holiday season. 

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As we get older and household pressures begin to mount, we may find ourselves asking an age-old question: how much more can I take? When do I reach my breaking point? How do I protect myself from burnout and even resentment toward others? 

If you’ve ever felt this way, I can assure you; you are not alone. That internal bandwidth that comes with running a household is called the mental load. 

Featured image of Simone Boyce by Teal Thomsen.

What is the mental load?

The mental load refers to the cognitive effort involved in managing your work, relationships, family, and household. It’s the laundry list of details you manage throughout the day. It has to do with your responsibilities, formal or not, as well as the decisions you have to make.

Did I get a birthday gift for Sara? Did I schedule the Christmas card photos? Did I pick out the outfits? Did I make the dentist appointment? Did I pack everyone’s luggage? Do we have enough diapers? Does my husband know what time the kids need to be picked up? The list can go on and on. 

Research suggests that women carry a heavier mental load in the household. According to Healthline, a 2019 study of 35 heterosexual couples found that the women in the relationships tend to take on more of the cognitive labor, particularly when it came to anticipating the needs of others and monitoring progress.

Additionally, when 400 married women were asked about their mental load, 88 percent reported that they were the ones who primarily managed routines at home and 76 percent said they were mostly responsible for maintaining regular household standards and order.

Much like a physical burden, the weight of the mental load can be heavy and detrimental to one’s health. 

My Personal Mental Load 

Like so many of you, my mental load reached its limit when I became a mother. This isn’t to say I wasn’t ready to become a parent. I knew there would be sleepless nights and long days, teething phases, and seemingly endless messes to clean. What surprised me was the running list of tasks and the unseen domestic labor.

I didn’t feel appreciated and all the work I was doing seemed like it wasn’t valued. Because let’s face it: society doesn’t value it.

It’s simply expected! Women can do it all, right? Newsflash: we can’t. Even if I could, I don’t want to. 

Sharing Your Mental Load With Your Partner

I’m going to tell you a secret. Are you ready? We’ve all been sold a lie: the lie that men aren’t capable of carrying some of the household burdens. I recently did a poll on my Instagram asking women if they sometimes feel that it would be easier to just do something themselves instead of asking for help. I was met with a resounding yes.

We may think things like “my husband probably doesn’t even know where the kids’ school is” or “he probably doesn’t know what time to pick them up,” but that’s just not fair. If they don’t know these things, it’s time that they do so they can take on some of the responsibilities as well. 

The Moment I Knew I Need To Address the Responsibility Imbalance

Story time. One day, my husband Tyler took the kids to the dentist. After the appointment, they asked him if he would like to schedule the next appointment. Instead of doing it, he said “no, my wife will call you.” I lost it when he told me. Why put that on me? Why add that to my list when you were just there? It was then that I knew I needed to make a change before it set me over the edge. 

Since having conversations about sharing the mental load, I’ve seen my husband take on more tasks. Surprise! He does them just as well, if not better than I can. He also now cooks all our meals and does all the grocery shopping, so I never have to think about the meals. It’s no longer a part of my mental load. 

How To Share the Mental Load With Your Partner

When it comes to sharing the mental load with your partner, every household is unique. So, I decided to tap a few experts, including Mariel Benjamin, LCSW & Director of Groups at Cooper. Mariel is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with over 15 years of experience at Mount Sinai Medical Center working with families and children. She is the Director of Groups at Cooper, and mom to two young kids. She had amazing insights to share on how to lighten your mental load with your children, as well. 

“One of my favorite ways to do this is figuring out how to promote autonomy while removing some items from my list. Ask your children to take over packing their lunches, remembering to wash their soccer uniform in time for practice, or keeping track of their homework.

It stretches them, gives them important roles in the household, and improves their own executive function skills. Above all, remember that asking for help and dividing responsibility is never a bad choice, as long as we allow ourselves to believe that we are entitled to it.”

How to Lighten Your Mental Load

Asking for help with the mental load is just one step in the direction of a happier life. Another is finding ways to make what’s on your plate less heavy. I know what you’re thinking: “How is this possible when there seem to be no relaxing days?” These are my tips.

Give yourself permission 

Not every day needs to be more productive than the next. Give yourself permission to be lazy, lie down, ask for help, be silly, or do whatever you need to do to wind down.

Many times, we are our own captors in the never-ending spiral of stress and shame.

Turn off that voice in your head that says you aren’t doing enough. Replace it with a louder one that says it’s okay to not be perfect. 

Assess your values 

Think of an experience that was so positive, fulfilling, and deeply meaningful that you can almost feel what it was like to be in that moment. It could be from any point in your life. Write down what made that experience so meaningful to you. Repeat this process a few times using different experiences and calm yourself down before continuing on with your day.

Take a self-compassion break 

Stop being so hard on yourself! The world will not fall apart if we miss one thing on our list. Take a moment to mindfully reflect on all that you have done instead of all that you haven’t, and have compassion for yourself. Feel for your own well-being as you would for a loved one. 

Have the talk

Sit your partner down and chat about what a fair division of labor looks like in your home. Even if you’re a stay-at-home caregiver, you can still divide some of this labor up. If you’re like Tyler and me, you might have more of a 35/65 split. The important thing is to sit down in a calm environment and empower your partner to take on tasks that meet both of your standards for care. 

More Mental Load Resources

If you’re feeling at the end of your rope, resentful, overwhelmed, or unsure how to communicate these feelings to your spouse, I recommend checking out some of these accounts.

• @fairplaylife
• @everodsky
• @motherhonestly
• @totumwomen
• @chamberofmothers

They have helped me find balance and my voice when it came to asking for help with my mental load. I hope they can do the same for you! 

A Few Final Thoughts

I hope we can all recognize that it’s not unreasonable to ask for help and for equal rest in the household. Laura Danger of ThatDarnChat said it best when I asked for her advice.

“Working outside of the house and domestic engineering at home are both time and energy consuming. Everyone deserves to hold some of the daily grind tasks, as well as some of the more mentally heavy tasks like state planning or managing holidays! Be clear and explicit, and make the time to discuss who is responsible. Don’t default. Discuss!”

Stay tuned! I’ll be following up with how I took a deep dive with Tyler on the Fairplay method, how we split our mental load and domestic labor, and how we value it. In the meantime: you’ve got this!

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Ultimately, parenting on Halloween is all about encouraging well-rounded eating habits and leading by example. Spoiler alert: the less emphasis you put on candy, the more success you’ll see around reducing your kids’ obsession with it.

Feature image of Brandy Joy Smith and family by Zachary Gray.

Edie Horstman

Edie is the founder of nutrition coaching business, Wellness with Edie. With her background and expertise, she specializes in women’s health, including fertility, hormone balance, and postpartum wellness.

Children Are Intuitive Eaters

One of the most powerful things we can glean from our children is how in-tune they are with their hunger cues. Despite their mealtime fussiness, they’re intuitive eaters. Therefore, it’s our responsibility to model healthy behaviors around food—especially on holidays, like Halloween. It’s also our duty to give them the space to eat unconditionally. In turn, they can develop a healthy relationship with food (and a mindful relationship with sugar). In the spirit of wholesome parenting, Halloween is a wonderful opportunity to approach treats with ease and empowerment. It’s not all or nothing.

Set Your Child Up To Have A Normal Relationship With Food

Before we get to how to approach Halloween candy with kids, let’s back up. While normal looks different for everyone, the gist is to raise children to have a mindful yet enjoyable (read: stress-free!) relationship with food—both on holidays and in general. Below are five tips to raise a habitual eater.

Strive to be a positive role model

Monkey see, monkey do. If you struggle with a healthy relationship with food, you might find it difficult to model that for your children. And that’s okay. A wonderful place to start is to not see our bodies as an enemy. Rather than strive for body positivity, strive for body neutrality around your kids. Sometimes, saying nothing is better than saying something.

Try not to use food as reward or punishment

Have you ever found yourself saying, “You can’t have ice cream unless you eat your broccoli,” or “If you misbehave, you can’t have a cookie.” Using food as a reward—or punishment—is so tempting. However, this automatically categorizes foods as good or bad. Non-food rewards, like special activities or a new bathtub toy, can be just as effective. Not using food as a reward or punishment also avoids putting foods into boxed categories—a mentality that can carry over into adulthood.

Let go of the clean plate club

Unfortunately, this forces kids to ignore their internal signals of fullness. Instead of being able to explore and enjoy the foods in front of them, children feel like they need to eat everything on their plate—often, to move on to dessert. They know when they are hungry and when they are full. They might gravitate toward some foods more than others. In that case, you can explore more foods, together.

Although some picky eating is common, extremely picky eating that persists for several months or more could be a sign of disordered eating. Parents who have concerns about their child’s eating patterns should consult a pediatrician or another health professional.

Prioritize family meals

Speaking of exploring foods, together, family meals are crucial for raising a normal eater. After all, they protect against disordered eating. Yes, that includes eating dessert together! This is a wonderful way to build family relationships, honor cravings, and more.

Be weight neutral

Rather than focus on your child’s size, which can (and will) change over time, try to be neutral. Note the diversity of bodies and how they naturally come in different shapes and sizes. Encourage children to eat a variety of foods and to do physical activities that bring them joy.

No Need To Be The Treat Police

So, how do you handle the abundance of candy with your little one(s)? Do you give them a certain number of pieces? Is it a free-for-all? Should they even go trick-or-treating? How to approach Halloween candy with kids may require trial and error, but there’s no need to act as the “Switch Witch,” “Treat Police,” or pretend Halloween never happened. That doesn’t teach kids anything—other than restriction, deprivation, and shame. Ultimately, the goal is to empower children to mindfully eat sugar and desserts, versus fearing and obsessing over treats, altogether.

How To Approach Halloween Candy With Kids

If you take one thing from this article, let it be this: don’t stress about Halloween candy!

Yes, that’s the silver bullet. In the grand scheme of things, the stress and pressure are unnecessary. Enjoy some with your kids while it’s in the house, then move on. All things considered, there aren’t an infinite number of Halloweens in your child’s life (or yours). Eventually, they’ll be too old for trick-or-treating—or simply disinterested in it.

1. When They Ask For Candy, Say Yes

As long as you’ve deemed it appropriate for your toddler to have added sugar or sweets, let your child enjoy a handful of candies. One night (or a few nights) of multiple candies will not ruin their long-term health—I promise! With toddlers, specifically, they’re still very good at eating intuitively and will stop when they’re full. Most young children will take two or three candies, and be done with it. They may even take a bite or two and then get distracted by something else.

2. Don’t Make A Big Deal Out Of It

The less of a deal you make out of it, the more you’ll see it’s not worth stressing over in the first place. Show your little one that candy is a food like any other food. Nothing special, nothing to get worked up over, nothing to put up on a pedestal—or conversely, nothing to be ashamed of when eating. Remember: food (including candy)—can be eaten strictly for enjoyment! Not everything we eat is tied to nutrition. 

3. Engage In Conversation With Them

Encourage your kids to choose which candies they like. They can even make separate piles. This may seem obvious, but there’s no need to devour treats they don’t love. Furthermore, engage in conversation with them while they’re eating—ask them about the texture, colors, flavors, etc. Speaking of, no need to come from a “I told you so” perspective if they go overboard. Rather, help them observe what they feel in their body—and why. You can respond with, “I’m sorry your belly is hurting. Maybe, having that much candy made it upset. Let’s practice listening to your body and stopping before it hurts.”

4. Resume Your Mealtime Boundaries On November 1st

After Halloween, put the candy out of sight. Resume whatever strategies you’ve implemented when it comes to sugar and dessert. When in doubt, offer sweets alongside a meal or snack. That way, it’s treated like any other food. It’s a small portion on their plate and offered among a variety of other nutritious options.As a parent, you choose when to offer candy rather than give it anytime your child asks for it. Explain that it’s not going to disappear forever after October 31st. You can all enjoy it, in moderation, to keep the Halloween spirit alive.

Halloween Blood Sugar Hacks

Last but not least, a few Halloween blood sugar hacks! To help minimize sugar rushes (and crashes), aim to have a filling and nutrient-dense dinner before trick-or-treating. Rather than set your child up with an empty belly before a night full of candy, peek these easy, weeknight dinner recipes. Opt for a good source of protein (animal or plant-based), fat (avocado, cheese, olive oil, etc.) and fiber (carrots, broccoli, cauliflower, etc.). When you’re out trick-or-treating, bring water with electrolytes with you. Stay hydrated, and encourage your kids to do the same. Feel free to bring a nourishing yet sweet snack, too!

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